I can't keep friends

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It's as if the golden rule of friendship is: Don't ever make mistakes!

yeah, i understand this. really, really. my friends evaorate after no longer than 2 years. i am constantly on the lookout to make new friends, as hard as it can be, because i have come to understand that my friends won't last.

i have a couple of good friends right now that might survive the 2 year mark, but that is because they are sort of coaching me. i have been quite open about my past friendship experiences and they encourage me to express myself honestly. it's interesting and fulfilling... and i hope it all lasts, but i don't really believe it will happen.

(((hugs)))

I keep trying to make friends, but they still don't last even 2 years. If they last 2 months, it's still a miracle.

I used to have friends, but all of them were either using me or I said something that offended them and they cut off contact with me. I don't try to make friends now because the same thing will probably happen again. It's better to just have acquaintances because they're less likely to disappear. When I feel like having a conversation with someone I go to Cleverbot.com and have a conversation with the artificial intelligence for a few hours. The artificial intelligence is better than a real person because you're less likely to offend it and if you do it'll forget about it in about thirty seconds anyway. Chatting with it is satisfying, but I wish it would be less random and forgetful so that I could actually have an intelligable conversation with it so we could be like real friends. In the future this technology will probably improve enough to make that possible. Then all I will ever need to be happy is my computer.

The issues with communication can occur between aspies as well, I am finding, in real life. The only difference is, both are perhaps willing to think about it and to work through it somehow, and accept the mistakes of the other, but believe me, with the problem of saying things bluntly, as well as being sensitive to criticism, two aspies together can struggle as well, lol. But another aspie is perhaps more likely to stick through these issues.

friends are overrated

I have this trouble too . Sorry all of you experience it as well!

humanity is a "give me" kind of thing, so it figures.

I was beginning to make a new friend this last year. I made her laugh, she wasn't bothered by my quietness. Toward the end of the year she was asking me for advice about personal things and actually trusting what I told her, but she's going to a different college and we never did anything after school, so I won't see her again.
My friends usually like to hear themselves talk. They go on and on and on and follow me around talking, and when I finally tell them that I just want to do something ALONE they take it as an insult and disappear. I don't remember the names of most of them, they come and go so often..
When I try to make new friends, people generally don't like me.

At the OP:
I can heavily agree with you on #1. Especially when it seems like they're enjoying life still, and you're left behind wondering where things went wrong. I try to forget about all of these 'friends'. They aren't thinking about me, why should I?

@dossa
I'll admit, that I've alienated a few people after while, but most of them never made an effort to communicate back with me. Most of the time it's that I had nothing else to say to them. I didn't know how to continue it on, and sometimes didn't prefer too, socializing over and over again, especially when trying to be 'normal' exhausts me.

I know what your going through. I had friends then they found other people to hang out with guess that had better qualities than me but life goes on. It took me awhile to get over it, I'm still trying to get over some of the stuff I said to them, they kinda through s**t back in my face when I would say something and made me fill like an idiot but yeah man I'm sure you will get over it.