Social Anxiety

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my husband suffers from this.. it took him years to get over this.. he finally consented to take meds for it and his entire life changed. he never dated until he was 30 something. he carries terrible scars from his high school years.. but when he sees how full his life is now and what he missed for years he regrets not getting help sooner. i fell head over heels for this wonderful man.. i met him 4 years ago and we married him last year.. we have a 7 month old now.. take it from him you live the pain now but you can get help to get you over this and see your life later.. your futrure is what you make of it.. give yourself a chance!! !

what a great alternative.. this is wonderful advice for others who suffer from this.. i never knew there was something out there like that.. I will remember this when my son is older...

I also have social anxiety. Especially when I'm tired, I just like...can't have a conversation. They talk, and when I want to say something, when tired, it appears to be really hard to hear or understand what I'm saying. When I'm not tired, I can speak more properly, but for some reason, I just can't bind people for a conversation, so they go away, you know, so that my self-confidence drops ever lower than it already was, so that it's even harder to talk to most people. Only with people I know really well, I haven't got social anxiety, that is, when speaking face to face. It might sound strange for an aspie, but in most cases I can't conversate with people on telephone or via MSN.

I think it is like this: in real life you can see whether people are really disinterested or happy or whatever (not in all cases however) but when I don't actually see the person I'm talking to, I in all cases think they're disinterested or not happy to talk to me or whatever, I think because of the self-confidence I thus don't have.

I also have social anxiety. Especially when I'm tired, I just like...can't have a conversation. They talk, and when I want to say something, when tired, it appears to be really hard to hear or understand what I'm saying. When I'm not tired, I can speak more properly, but for some reason, I just can't bind people for a conversation, so they go away, you know, so that my self-confidence drops ever lower than it already was, so that it's even harder to talk to most people. Only with people I know really well, I haven't got social anxiety, that is, when speaking face to face. It might sound strange for an aspie, but in most cases I can't conversate with people on telephone or via MSN.

I think it is like this: in real life you can see whether people are really disinterested or happy or whatever (not in all cases however) but when I don't actually see the person I'm talking to, I in all cases think they're disinterested or not happy to talk to me or whatever, I think because of the self-confidence I thus don't have.

I'm another aspie with social anxiety. Right now I'm suffering because of my job. I work part-time at a college. I'm really afraid of casual gatherings of people and try to avoid them if possible. But to get to my building I have to pass by groups of students who gather outside the front door. Once inside, I have to navigate narrow corridors crammed with people. I try to walk by without bringing attention to myself, but the students seem to have radar which detects nervousness. I feel really embarrassed, which lowers my self-esteem and makes the situation worse. Even though I know it's just in my head, I feel like everyone can see right through me. The feeling of dread in my stomach that these encounters create makes it very difficult for me to function afterwards. It's like I become frozen: unable to move or speak. But I have to because I'm at work.