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That is definatly abuse.

Giftorcurse, at this point you are more mature than your parents. In theory, you could now coach them but that would be a terrible dynamic and would not work more than occasionally. In general, until you can find another place to live on good terms and your own terms, you want to live in the house but not live there so to speak. Do your own thing and at times engage in a medium way and leave it at that. One tactic is the method of measured disclosure. For example, if you've decided that you like the field of environmental engineering, tell your parents you are considering different fields in engineering. You are being private but not secretive. You are running one behind the curve as far as what you reveal to them. (and if they aggressively push, matter-of-factly deflect.) Please keep your eyes on college as both good for your own future, on your own terms, and as a perfect opportunity/excuse to get decent living arrangements away from your parents.

And, as discussed yesterday, living with your grandmother is a definite possibility, but for various reasons may not work out. And it sure helps to have a back-up.

There's often a biochem component to depression, which I have bouts with myself. I have not tried any antidepressants yet although I am warming to the idea.

The book seems to be that something like Cymbalta or Zoloft might work great for some people, not do a thing for other people, and no doctor in the world can predict in advance. It's just that human biochem, esp of neurotransmitters, is both complex and highly individual.
Treating depression can be hit or miss (2009 article)
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt163505.html

One upshot is that you can use either a psychiatrist or a 'regular' doctor like an internist, and that choice is up to you. I personally have found so-called mental health professionals to often be big egotists. Other people have had more positive experiences and more power to them.

A lowlife teacher told my parents that I'm missing a couple of assignments, and they've been guilt tripping me.

There's no reasoning with them. They're clever, so that the law can't touch them. They're well connected and respected in the community. One time, by dad told me upfront he was involved in the drug trade back in the seventies. Never got caught.

Are there jobs available in your area that you could handle? Could you support yourself on 1 or 2 part-time jobs? Would any friends' families let you move in until graduation? If 'yes ', go STRAIGHT to a school counsellor, tell everything, and start the proceedings to become an 'emancipated minor'. Counsellors have more legal connections than you may be aware of, and they can guide you through what you need to do to GET OUT OF THERE! Sylkat

You should get out of that situation as soon as possible.