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You are an amazing person but there is only so much you can do.

The other day I was talking to a friend of mine and I praised the advice she gave on some situations, her reply was that she did the best she could but theres only so much you can do when somebody doesnt want to be helped.

I dont think that anyone here would question that you´ve tried your best to support most members here at the haven. Sure there are times when things have turned out wrong but some people dont want to be helped and theres very little you can do about that so you shouldnt punish yourself when its not your fault.

You're all really nice and thoughtful. I wish I was my old stable self and not posting desperate suicidal stuff but I much appreciate all your thoughts and ideas and kindness and hope you feel better if you feel the same way.

Hey

Sorry, I've only just seen this.

Purchase, you are a lovely person, you are kind, generous with your time and concern, and funny, and I'm sure you've brightened the days of many people on WP and in real life. You've been a good friend to people on here, and even when someone hasn't responded favourably to you, I'm sure you've still made a difference with your words.

I really really wish and hope that things improve for you. You do need to be under the care of a professional I think, even if it's only to keep you safe. Maybe there are medications that haven't been tried that could help you?

These times do pass and things will seem brighter for you again. xx

don't you think that there's a chance that it's the depressive episode that dictates those thoughts to your mind and fogs your reason? I'm sure you must realise that such a chance exists, and I think you should hold on to those odds however slight they might be. things might not be as bad as they seem, maybe your filters just need some fine-tuning.

Thank you Henbane and Anna. I think I'm seeing things realistically, it's being reinforced by reality. If I pretend things are okay I am lying to myself and it takes a lot of work to lie to yourself and eventually it's too tiring.

Yeah, sometimes life really does suck that much. For over a year now I've been sticking it out for my kids, no other reason, and gradually, slowly, things are starting to look a *tiny bit* better. A year ago I thought they never would, but they have. I still have my days, but if I'd ended it over a year ago when I seriously considered it, I wouldn't have seen things start to look up. Find a reason to hang in there, even if it's just to see what happens and to see whether things get better. They might.

~Kate

Have you been around things you normally aren't? Could be neurotoxicity. Hope the best for you.

I wish I could make you happy, too. You're a very good person who deserves happiness. :| I have always appreciated your posts to me, and PM's, even if I cannot take your advice to heart. While I haven't been able to do that, and never could (in most regards, anyway), you have shown a care that I have very much appreciated reading... it even has managed to cheer me up, at least somewhat, despite me rejecting it.

I hope you are doing better, today. Did you take up Swedish, yet, by the way...? If you ever have questions on it, PM me about it. My Swedish grammar is flawless (I don't mean to brag).

Seconded. The painful bit is finding the right Shrink. I was seeing a Psychiatrist in fancy rooms on the other side of town. Nice guy but he was utterly useless, I have a feeling I was well out of his field.

Dumped him and found a Psychologist instead near where I live - shared rooms with crappy decor and no frills
He has been a genius. My life has started unfolding, in a good way, and giant chunks are making more sense than ever before. I never thought an NT could help me this much.