I just screwed my life away in 5 mins last night

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Maybe they should ask about this DUI rather then make an accusation based on that suspcion.

First, if it was a DUI, nobody in their right mind would admit it to an insurance company or the cops. It's another charge, and a bigger one. Second, hit and run is usually illegal so the OP may get charged with it and a ticket, etc. If so, then insurance may not pay because of that.

It's usually the cops that suspect DUI in a hit and run. Nobody would ever tell a cop, after the fact, "Yes Officer, I was drinking" and there is really no practical way to tell if they were or were not drinking at the time.

Frances

Ok but based on this thread I am going to assume it was not a DUI, maybe more of a case of being overwhelmed not knowing what to do.......I've never had this specific senerio happen to me, but I've had simular things involving cops happen in the past and they do try to use the assumptions to get you for things you did not do.....but it is always possible to stand your ground. Also not sure if the OP has an official dx but that could help when dealing with the law as its not uncommon with people on the spectrum to suffer sensory overload which can cause stress/anxiety which can interfere with rational thinking.

I don't know I just never think its good to just give into them, its best to stand your ground and make sure you don't admit to anything you did not do.

Very good post.

First off, you hit a fence. So, please take a deep breath. You did not hit another vehicle, not even a parked vehicle. Yes, perhaps you should have reported it right away, but it's more of a technical hit and run, not the bad kind. Question: Was the fence even damaged?

And with the police, this is why it sure helps to have an advocate or supporter present with you. That can be a Aunt or Uncle, a sibling, a parent, a former teacher, someone like a minister who's respected in the community. Someone who will help you negotiate the system and increase the chance of you being treated with respect. Still a lot of luck factors. Most cops are decent individuals (and good to look at it that way), but some are jerks.

well when my situation happened, I was 15 and I knew more about their game than my mom did, I mean she even let them search the house without a warrent because they did not explain to her she did not have to let them in if she did not want to. So sometimes its better to advocate for yourself......but we still ended up needing a public defender just to get them off my back once and for all.

but hitting a fence post is quite a bit more minor then the situation I ran into, or hitting another vehicle......so it might not be that much hassle to get through it.

There was also a more minor occurance where I was helping run some school store......and there was a little change on the counter so not thinking I picked it up and put it in my pocket turns out it came up missing so this girl told the teacher me and her were stealing from the store.......she was the one doing the stealing but mentioned me taking the change I did not know all that at the time so anyways I got sent to the office and then they told me to sit in a room and I ended up getting really anxious and ran away from the school.....then eventually I called the cops myself and told them what happened and it ended up not being a big deal.

I am living proof that both dropping out of college ( I was academically dismissed) and wrecking a company vehicle will NOT ruin you for life.

Back in 1986, I was dismissed from the university for poor grades. Sputtered around in the community college scene for a semester and entered the Wonderful World of Work in 1987.

By 1988 I was working full time as a concrete and construction inspector. I had a company pick up truck. By the fall of 1989 I was married and moving with my wife into a new apartment. I asked my boss if I could borrow the company truck to move some furniture. Rear ended another car and the truck had to be towed. Official company policy was that no trucks would be driven for personal use. Since my boss knew this, he was in violation of company policy when he let me use the truck. Obviously it was me or him and he was my boss. Guess who got fired?

Anyway, me getting fired led to a much better, higher paying job with another company. After 9 years with a medical electronic firm, I moved on to aerospace, where I work as a materials engineering technician. I don't have a 4 year engineering degree, but I do much of the same work as an engineer. I am in charge of a million dollar testing lab.

Bottom line: Life will go on...live and learn. It's not the end of the world.

I didn't know you have to report a minor accident to the cops if you didn't even cause any damage.

I once hit a parked car causing a minor dent on the side door. I just left a note with my phone number on it explaining what happened and took down the license plate number so I could track the person down if they lost my note or didn't call for some reason. He got back to me the next day and we exchanged phone and license plate numbers. We decided not to bother with insurance because it wasn't worth it. He decided not to fix the dent because it was an old car anyways but I just paid him an amount he and I both thought was reasonable compensation.

So, was the fence damaged?

Maybe a general statement 'Didn't seem like it was damaged' (yes, perhaps a lie of deflection, a facesaving lie for both sides, I think kind of okay) Please use your own judgment.

And is there someone in live time whose judgement you respect that you could bounce some of this off? And we'll certainly do what we can here and please continue to use WP as a resource. A person in live time helps, too (which often I don't have).

Thanks for the support ^^

My supervisor came with me to the police station today. We stoped by the accident site before hand. The fence is up but leaning a little, nt really a big deal. We took a picture and showed the guy that was talking to us at the station. He said it was so minor that they arnt doing anything about it. The house was also abandoned, so that helped. So, im squared away with the law now. Just tomorrow its gunna be a butt chew by my bosses boss. I work for the governemt so they have their own company and money for the repairs of the vehical, so no insurance will be involved.

So I will probably come out of this with some s**t work detail for the next month. I am lucky

Good for you. It sounds like it worked out okay with the police. So, step one. That one's checked off.

And the butt chew by your boss's boss, well, hopefully won't be too bad. Maybe if you kind of prepare a party line 'Report it right away, and even more careful,' something like that. And please trust your gut instincts regarding this, too.

I drove off the one time I did that. Didn't even look to see if there was damage, though there wasn't on my car anyway.

Oooh, be careful with that one, unless maybe if you can pretend like it was so minor you didn't really know you had hit the parked car.

And that one may not be fair to the person. (I sometimes draw a distinction between institution and person, and think it's sometimes okay to tell a lie of deflection to an institution.)

I've lightly bumped into someone's bumper on multiple occasions (yea, I suck at parallel parking). Either there wasn't anything I could visibly conform or there were so many tiny scratches and nicks already there that it was impossible to tell if I had made a new one. In all those cases I just drove off.

The other time I mentioned was a bit more major because I hit the door rather than the bumper and it was a big enough dent that I would have been pissed off if someone had done it to my car and then driven off.