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13 Feb 2012, 1:47 pm

Aharon wrote:
Go running or ride a bike steady for 30 minutes. If I'm feeling stressed, exercise will have me feeling like a zen master for hours afterwards. I think I could back float in a pirahna pool and just chill. Do that before your interview, and I'll bet you'll be a cool cat.

thanx, I will try it next time, which I know is going to be soon lol



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13 Feb 2012, 1:51 pm

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Millions of thoughts, mixed and intense emotions, trouble focusing. That is my normal state 95% of the time.

how do you cope with it? what do you do when interracting with others while in that state? I already had an interview with the potential employer during which I behaved like a Dalek, my hands were even shaking and my hands never shake. I was looking away from him when answering his questions, I want to be focused tonight, calm and collected, confident and graceful, but I might end up coming across as a monkey on acid.


Getting some intense exercise before hand can help calm me down. Pay attention to your breathing and remember to do it. Slow and deep. Try to face the person directly and if you have trouble with eye contact, look at some other part of the face near the eyes - like the nose or mouth- while you talk to them. If your hands are shaky, keep them on your lap. Get some valium from your doc for occasional use when in a social situation if its really bad. At least, that's what I use and it helps a lot.

thank you for your reply, it's so funny, it feels sometimes as if my stare is bouncing off the other person's eyes and I have to chase it back. I will definitely try the nose or forehead, the mouth comes across as flirting I think. I have looked men on the lips and they seem to think I am flirting, as if I am thinking I'd like to kiss them. lol The breathing tip will be used in next interview!



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13 Feb 2012, 1:56 pm

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Ah so glad you understand! :D I was thinking, not sure if you've seen it but the movie 50 First Dates where Drew Barrymore has no long-term memory and wakes up every morning like it's her first day on earth and has to take the shock of everything all over again EVERY SINGLE DAY... I feel like that way too much of the time. I would love to not, enough's enough.

Now I am dying to listen to a song but it will just mess up my day... what kind of music do you like listening to that does that to you?
Excellent point re: every single day being in the same shock, I had never thought of it that way, but I feel like this sometimes, very true.