Why do I have to be so sensative?

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I just wanted to say hang in there, try for peace in between the emotions and reactions. I wish I had the answer. because I'd like to stop or at least once in a while control my over reacting at my kids who I love. Tonight I yelled when someone sat on a kitten by mistake, and I over did it as usual.

You are over-reacting, I think. I can't imagine you being banned for that thread.

i do not care whether people have ill thoughts about me because their brains are inside their skulls and not inside mine. i do not feel "vibes".

as well, people who think ill of me do not constantly think about me. they may consider me for a minute or 2, but then they go on to think about other things that are unrelated to me. no one is in a constant state of thought. if i think badly of someone, i forget about them after a few minutes, and then there is no thought in my brain about them until i am reminded of them some time later.

people who do not like me only think as they do temporarily. it is not impossible for them to like me at any time in the future.

the things that happen in my life are unrelated to what people think of me. if they do not like me, it does not mean i will get every red traffic light or that anything of mine will break or whether i win the lottery or anything. they are not omnipotent, and they are not like gods who can cause me any harm.

in 2 years time, any thoughts people have are almost always forgotten. i can not recount exactly what i thought 2 years ago to the minute. even what i thought about 1 month ago is gone from my mind.

the next thing i say will seem pessimistic, but it is soothing to my girlfriend who is very scared about the fact she will die one day. in 150 years time, no one alive today will exist, and whatever worry i have now will be nothing but a forgotten blip in time. everyone who is popular and everyone who is hated will be in the same place. they will be gone.

i have a very cold personality and so i do not think what i say will help you who seem to want people to like you, but what i said in this post is why i do not care about what people think of me.

I've always been told I'm too sensitive and take things to heart.
I can't help it if I feel someone is getting at me.
There was a bully where I was working and she kept staring at me and walking past my section on purpose anyway when I told anyone they would say "She's changed she's probably not like that now" I feel it was their way of saying they didn't care.
Also If I get upset over something people would just dismiss it then I feel like I'm only in this world to be picked on by other people.

I too can take things personally. Doing so is associated with people on the spectrum, so I am not surprised to see that manifest on the forum.

Emotions can be valuable, but also confusing, and sometimes completely unwanted. They are the core of our ability to make decisions, and without them we would literally not know what to do.

b9's approach is one I am very keen on. If I am feeling an emotion that is unwanted, dissecting it with reasoning and logic is often a relief.

Not caring about what people think of us is vary valuable, it allows us to be honest and for our true nature to thrive, and as is demonstrated in b9's posts, is not the same as not caring.

My impression is that you are experiencing personal growth Sweetleaf. Sometimes it seems we must open ourselves to the possibility of being hurt in order to be desensitised.

I've been emotionally hypersensitive most of my life and; yes, its just grating and really doesn't give me anything positive aside from perhaps a strong connection to music, the arts, and it may play a role in keeping me ethical if even a bit overly so.

Why is it as in why does it happen to people? Its a trait but, like anything in this universe, whether its helpful or acts more as an annoyance is really indifferent to an unthinking process like the universe we live in.