i starting to get more stressed and sad'er

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school today was not the best

i ended getting streed aginge

any help?

What do you mean by streed ?

well i put my head in my hands and feel streed out all the sudden and con't do more work i don't know this is happing

Do you have anyone you can talk to at your school about how you are feeling? Or can you see your doctor for advice? I always advise people who feel suicidal or thoroughly stressed to talk to someone and share how they are feeling. You don't have to cope with this alone. This forum can offer you support and advice, but sometimes you need to share your worries with a responsible adult or a professional who can provide practical help.

It sounds like you feel quite trapped and frustrated, and that you are getting stressed on a regular basis. In that case, something needs to change to move things forward and improve the situation. This may be starting a course of medication - it can be a helpful, temporary solution to help you through a bad patch. Or cutting back on your projects so that you don't overwhelm yourself.

Things can and will improve, just hang in there and try to work towards finding the light at the end of the tunnel.

i feel to imbarresd to talk to someone in real life.

That's fair enough. But it's clearly troubling you and I sense that you want to do something about it. Plucking up courage to talk to someone is the hard part - that's why it's important that you choose someone responsible who you can trust and feel comfortable with. It does get easier once you take that step and share how you are feeling, and it may just be the first step to getting your life back on track.

whats the best way for me to tell them?

Okay, I'd make a list of three adults who you feel like you can trust and who might be helpfully. And you can make this list either mentally or actually on a piece of paper. Then, trust your gut instinct regarding which adult has the highest chance of actually being helpful. (by 'gut instinct,' I mean right-brain feel-and-texture)

And how to tell the adult, I'd keep it to three sentences.

Remember your successes, too. Such as post2vps.info (which I do not know what that is but it sounds impressive! ) And please remember, like Ted Williams in baseball, just because it comes easy to you doesn't means it comes easy to everyone. It's still a strength you can build on.

And working with the adult, just try and take it a series of medium steps by medium steps. And for me, consciously reminding myself of that is sometimes helpful.

i allready know who to tell

That's good, so you now know who you will speak to and can plan the next step.

Don't forget that you can write things down if you don't feel able to say them - as AardvarkGoodSwimmer suggested, aim for 3 sentences, and sum up the issues you are struggling with.

You can start getting your ideas straight in your head by making notes if that helps you. Start with 3 main headings and then jot down some ideas under each heading eg, how you feel, what's stressing you, what worries you most. You can then summarise your notes to make up your three sentences, plus you will have your notes to use when you speak to the person you choose. I find that if you have something written down, it's a useful back up if you find it hard to express yourself face-to-face with someone or if you get tongue-tied etc. Plus, if you write things down it sometimes helps to stop you thinking them over and over again.

now i just end up
walking out of class

ps.
i still have not found a good way to tell people what i feel.


any help please?

What if there was a place, for example, a bench on the main school hallway that you could walk to when you needed to?

And that way, school authorities would know where you were and wouldn't need to worry about you. You are trying to work with them a little bit and still stand up for yourself.

And then maybe you could read a little, walk up and down that hallway, read a little more. I sometimes like to do this. (So, it may or may not work for you. But something else may work very well. Here at WP, people can come up with lots of different good ideas and I think people are pretty good at this.)

As far as what to say, maybe you could start with some general positives:

'I am a person with autism.'

'I have strong points and can do a lot of things well.'

'Some things I have trouble with.'

'I want to be appreciated for who I am.'

'I would like to try _____________________________ '

'I think it would help me and my life _________________________________ '

And at this point, you make a couple of requests that you would like to try. Now, no guarantee that you are going to get them at the beginning. But it is a start of a conversation and the start of a dialogue.

i did run 4 miles from home before i was found they came up with a punisment of contraled computer time


they did not take in account my idea of a 2 week ban from the computer
saying ' i woruld not cope with it'
why do u think they seid that?

I think exercise of all sorts is generally a very good way of responding to stress.

The school authorities and/or your parents, is there just some way you can give them a heads up so they won't worry?

I guess it's standard for authorities and parents to take away 'privileges.' Now, whether it is in fact a privilege or not, well, that can be debate-able, but they're not trying to simply be jerks. In a sense, they are trying to be middle-of-the-road.

And like a business person, I really encourage you to be proactive in negotiations. Whether in writing or in face to face conversation, maybe begin with "I think my life will take a step forward if I am able to ________________________', and then say whatever is important to you. And the general strategy is a series of medium steps staying alert and open to feedback.