12 Nov 2006, 5:26 pm
12 Nov 2006, 5:27 pm
13 Nov 2006, 11:54 am
fresco wrote:
Alternative you're cool and no way are you dull, you have your whole life ahead of you to try new stuff, don't worry, who can define dull just be happy.
I know I have a whole life ahead of me, I'm just wanting your feedback as I do nothing in the supposedly happiest stage in life "Childhood" + "Being A Teen"...not.
If only I could. My depression is really getting to me though, as I'm a sufferer of it unfortunately.
13 Nov 2006, 11:56 am
sociable_hermit wrote:
What's the real question here?
Are you worried that other people might class you as dull? Or are you actually feeling bored and frustrated with yourself?
If you're happy, that's fine. Do as you will, and if other people find it 'dull' that's their problem. But if you're longing to do different things then I think you really ought to try: for your own peace of mind, not because I think there's anything wrong with the way you are now.
The way I try to look at it is: if you try something, and it's a failure, you'll only be back at the same place you were originally. But if it succeeds and you have fun, life could be a whole lot better.
I appreciate this isn't always easy advice to follow, though.
Are you worried that other people might class you as dull? Or are you actually feeling bored and frustrated with yourself?
If you're happy, that's fine. Do as you will, and if other people find it 'dull' that's their problem. But if you're longing to do different things then I think you really ought to try: for your own peace of mind, not because I think there's anything wrong with the way you are now.
The way I try to look at it is: if you try something, and it's a failure, you'll only be back at the same place you were originally. But if it succeeds and you have fun, life could be a whole lot better.
I appreciate this isn't always easy advice to follow, though.
It's good advice thanks.
But I'm not happy though, I'm a sufferer of depression.
And By the way, I'm not bored, but I'm kinda frustrated that I do nothing. But come to think about it, I think it's better this way, instead of trying new things. 
13 Nov 2006, 12:27 pm
IcelandicGuy wrote:
You´re not dull, you just have a dull life. Just like me. Most of what NT´s do for fun involves other people. However, for a lot of aspies other people can be dull. Talk about a vicious cycle ! !
What IcelandicGuy said. And others. To an NT, an Aspie's life may well seem dull and uninteresting. To an Aspie, an NT's life may well seem dull and uninteresting. Me, I go to work, I go home, I make supper, and I spend the evening either watching TV or playing on the computer, or both. On the weekends, I go grocery shopping Saturday morning, then spend the rest of the weekend watching movies on DVD. Except for doing laundry (the laundry room is next door down the hall in my apartment building), I often don't leave my apartment between Saturday early afternoon and Monday morning when I go to work.
If I wanted to do something different, I would.
13 Nov 2006, 12:53 pm
Thanks Xenon.
Like I say, I am grateful for feeback, and glad that I am not the only one.
Oh by the way Xenon, loving the avatar.
13 Nov 2006, 1:53 pm
13 Nov 2006, 2:12 pm
fresco wrote:
I apologise for coming out with the old cliches like you have your whole life ahead, not that helpful, anyway.
That's ok
I've heard that all before from most NTs anyway.
13 Nov 2006, 3:32 pm
Alternative wrote:
But I'm not happy though, I'm a sufferer of depression. And By the way, I'm not bored, but I'm kinda frustrated that I do nothing. But come to think about it, I think it's better this way, instead of trying new things.
And By the way, I'm not bored, but I'm kinda frustrated that I do nothing. But come to think about it, I think it's better this way, instead of trying new things. Better this way and being frustrated, than to try new things? No offense, but it kind of sounds like you are picking between "bad" and "worse." Perhaps you might want to think about what would make you happier, and just live accordingly. If you're frustrated with something, then something is wrong, and you're probably better off either changing that something (or getting rid of it), or changing your attitude towards it. Otherwise you'll continue on without resolution, and your depression won't get better.
