People ignore me on Facebook

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Don't use facebook, dude. That's the only advice I have.

Love your website!! Hope you seen mine

I disagree. Not commenting just means they have nothing to say. I think it's unreasonable to expect people to comment everything you post.

What about in real life, ie. face to face.....???? There shouldn't be a difference......

Quoting as it seemed to go unnoticed, ironically like Matty's FB stuff . Yeah Matty this might be the case, or your posts are on a very touchy subject, or one people don't know about, or don't take interest in. That's their right, and maybe it's better they don't acknowledge some of the stuff. It would be wrong to encourage obsessive behaviour, and also wrong to discourage / not support you with mean remarks. So them not doing anything is sometimes their way of being nice.

I'd stop using facebook to be honest. Or if you feel you cannot tear yourself away from it, just post what you are doing, a couple of non gratuitous photos every now and again, and events. Also like stuff similar to this. Avoid broadcasting to this level your aspie stuff. Instead, make a website for it, and on facebook say you updated your website and post the link to the website and not the specific article

why use facebook its no good and will die in a few years like all the other socal networking websites
just leave facebook

I have two facebook accounts. One for WP friends and one for face to face friends and family. I rarely look at the WP one, mainly I look at it when the forum is down. It helps feed my WP addiction when I can't get my regular WP fix.

I don't comment on most things that people post on my friends and family fb either. When I do post a status, I do it simply to say whats on my mind, not to get people to comment. I think that's what most people do too. I don't much care if somebody posts on my status, I don't expect them to. If somebody posts on my wall, I try to answer it because it's rude not to. Just because nobody posts doesn't mean nobody reads.

Look at your status posts as shouting through a bullhorn. Look at posting on someone's wall as starting a conversation.

You have a clear point there. It is rude not to answer someone post on your wall. This happens to me more than 70% of the time. Whether it goes unnoticed or not. The notifications does easily make you to keep track of things. It not hard to go unnoticed if there notifications are in place. People intentionally skip someone post, side tracking and thereof. It is really rude and manipulative. Is this sign of Narcissistic personality disorder behaviour?

There is a difference between intentional and unintentional. It more of unintentional if the notifications does not exist. This is my theory: the personality disorder focuses on toughness of the person and as well social skills balance. If the person does not have enough social skills (like an aspie, ie. me) that kind of person reacts to the intentional sense, it only focuses to one self and the others in obsessive way. Obsessing to other people who have high social skills. I see they kept talking, commenting, liking and whatever on their walls almost every single day.

No1 take this seriously, 'used' to be close friends is being changed by this Narcissistic personality disorder causes on Facebook?

Someone with NPD would more than likely try to keep a good public image. In other words, while they may ignore a message in their inbox from someone, they wouldn't ignore something publically on their wall.

Also, for some reason on my WP FB I can't get messages. I can't send them either. No clue why, because I can on my regular one.

Also, some people see the internet as something to play with rather than a form of communication. If someone doesn't feel like "playing" right then, they will just skip it. Lots of people are like that, so I wouldn't let it bother me if I were you. Also, some people go through phases where they like to talk a lot online and then where they just don't like to. Right now, I'm in more of a phase where public communication is something easy for me to do, but private like PM's IM's or emails is difficult and takes more concentration than I have to spare at the moment.

I've seen people react to facebook two ways. Some have the "It's just FB, don't sweat it" and forget about it as soon as they walk away from the computer. Others become obsessed by it and value themselves based on how many friends they have, who all talks to them, etc, and also they tend to check it constantly. Try to go for the first example when you react to FB. It's really not that important to most people, so they may not react the way you think they should. What would be rude in real life is accepted on FB and things like that for some reason.

WOW!! !! Facebook has blocked me for sending friend requests for thirty days, originally I had for 14 days. Unbelievable! I haven't send multiple friend requests at all! I kept and kept and kept and kept and kept and kept and kept and kept and kept and kept sending this problem to Facebook report and they did not respond me to at all. Stupid and terrible. Wonder how my family and some friends going to feel after me deleting the account soon?

I've had that happen to me, from, get this, sending friend requests to people that facebook suggested to me! That's nuts isn't it?

Wow that is terrible. I thought Mark is an aspie and intelligent enough to keep track of Facebook issues. I believe that is not his fault. More of non aspies of his employers.......

Well, it's not like it's that big of a deal. It pissed me off when it happened but oh well. I closed that screen on my computer and went to something else and then forgot all about it. Obviously somebody who they suggested for me, reported the friend request. Some people think they have to report everyone they don't know in real life.

Hold on. How Facebook know the people in real life?

If you're a musician I suggest you to NOT sign up to soundcloud either.

It's basically the facebook for musicians, full of narcissistic pricks with no sense of taste whatsoever and they play mindgames with each other all the time in order to get more subbers.

Nah I'm not.

I just don't know what to do, how to stay in contact with the people I know including family and friends while being over in US. I will be making a blog, photo albums and video diaries while on the trip.