Lost my only friend i can see regularly

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I'm the same way, I hate it.
Anytime anyone starts attacking "verbally" me in an argument I get aggressive and forget any logical argument I had prior.

It pisses me off because it makes me look like a complete idiot, stresses me out and sometimes even gets me in trouble even though I'm at least partially knowledgeable about most general subjects and a fairly reasonable/mellow person.

This is weird.
Your friend was in bad mood or something related to some other incident?
How can he end a 20 year old friendship for a bottle of cider.
Come on if you had stolen cash or jewellery i could understand.
But a bottle of cider a excuse to end friendship is absurd
Is friendship such a weak and shallow relationship it cracks so easily.

wasn't even a bottle...it was one of those packets like hot chocolate comes in....

I'd agree, I still have a lot of my primary school friends whom I've known for 21 years. If any of them asked me for a drink I'd probably whack them for bothering me ha.

I've fallen out with long term friends over some really stupid in the heat of the moment type stuff though. A simple "sorry dude, should have asked" (even if i thought I was actually in the right) and 8 cans of fosters to share would be what I would do in the situation.

i used to think that people having such a weird reaction in response to trivial things simply are nuts, but i figured out later that sometimes there is another explanation for unlogical behavior like this.

when a person is in a state of being already very concerned about something, very angry or under a lot of stress such an aggressive reaction can be triggered by very trivial things that do not neccessarily have anything to do with the actual issue. so maybe he has a serious problem he did not talk about or he was very stressed in that moment because something did not work as he wanted or he has more rational complaints about your friendship or doesnt value it that much any more and then freaked out "because" you took a beverage without asking although that would have been more or less normal / just somewhat annoying / no problem at all under usual circumstances.

there is an idiom called "the final straw that breaks the camels neck" describing this phenomenon and i think that might be what happened here.

That does seem over the top of him to get angry about fixing yourself a drink. Did he mention that anything else was bothering him? If he was under a lot of stress he might have lashed out at you because of that. If he's generally a good mate and doesn't make a habit of acting like that maybe try giving him a call or a text in a couple of days time and see if you can make things right.

If you want to make it up to him, go buy a whole bunch of those packets and bring them to his house.



I've been a "thief in the right" before when I had this small business with a friend. We had a mobile wardrobe wagon which we would park near "the clubs" so people could hang their coats/purses in safety instead of being stuck to the club their stuff was at so they can keep an eye on it. My friends dad payed for it all because they are filthy rich and the first year it went pretty nice, so we payed his father back and both were 50% owner of the company.

Then my friend however realized he could get 200 euro's from his dad as pocketmoney to go out, and have me work the business he would get 50% from at the end of the night too.
After this happened at least 15 times, I decided I would pay myself 50 euro per evening he wouldn't show up. But right after I had decided that there were 2 weeks where I wanted to go work, but was unable to because I was alone and couldn't get the wagon passed parked cars and tight bends, but still payed myself the 50 euro's. So the third week he decided to come work again for an evening, and saw we were missing 100 euro's, (because I didn't have any income to fill that the gap) at which point I just confessed and told him I had payed myself 50 bucks the last 2 weeks for trying to get the wagon into it's position but failing because I was alone.
He got mad, so I told him to f**k off and left and never saw him again, other than to sign some papers to nullify the company. And of course at that time all the money we had in our companies savings accounts was supposedly spend on things pertaining to the company. *BS*