Anyone else feel like the black sheep?

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I'm certainly the black sheep in my family.

I've only a small family , my parents i no longer see my mum & dad due to my mothers constant riddicule & them both haveing no confidence in my abilities.

My brother I still speak to, quite often at the moment, as I'm doing some DIY work in his flat, we never used to be very close untill he relized he had is own psychologic "issues" such as hoarding , OCD , & being such a *perfectionist (*much like myself), so now its my turn to "tolerate" him.

I no longer keep in contact with my cousins, except for posting of greetings cards of a christmas time.

In all the places of my employment , I've always been the black sheep too.

What about if the white sheep wants to kick out the black sheep? Then the black sheep will be all lonely (and sporting some bruises, hopefully).

So, why would the poor black sheep aquire some bruises as well as being left out, Tequilla ?

Yeah, I've often felt left out cus "two's company, but three's a crowd"..., but jesus, if I ended up feeling deffed out AND walking away with bruises, then I'd be awaiting the next opportunity to confront each of those white sheep on their own to return whatever bruises they'de inflicted upon me !

I feel like that with most people including my family. I'm quiet & keep to myself & sii on the sidelines when I'm around more than a couple people.

I've always been the black sheep, and proud to be!

This has been one reason I have been conflict with my parents all my life: Their strict Mormon-like ways vs my looser, Westernized ways has resulted in clashes.

My parents are always treating me like the black sheep of the family. I'm not a bad guy, but when I make mistakes, my mom and dad are always pinning everything on me, and acting as if I am always the bad one in the family. They even tend to ignore the Golden Rule: "Treat others the way you want them to treat you?" Ha! To THEM it's "Treat others however you feel like it!" They're also always accusing me of ruining holidays: if I make a small mistake, they go on and on about it, and my parents and brother blame me for ruining everything!
I have made my own share of mistakes, but I'm always treated like the black sheep no matter what. I think it all began when I was in third grade, and began going through depressions and getting into trouble at school (it wasn't entirely my fault; I had a crabby teacher who did not understand anything about Asperger's Syndrome at the time.) It also didn't help that for some time, my younger brother was actually bullying me and always getting me in trouble for things he'd do (he eventually retired this some time after I left high school.)

I just wish my parents were nicer to me, and wouldn't always be so hostile and treating me like a bad guy!

I have always been the black sheep of my family. My sister, who may also be an aspie, is the only one that I regularly talk to since she understands me and has the same mannerisms. I don't do holidays or get togethers with my family outside of my sister, brother-in-law, and mother. Honestly, it doesn't really bother me and it doesn't seem to bother the rest of my family either. It seems to be a mutual understanding between us.

I'm the black sheep because I am apparently the only person in my family who is capable of looking at the generations of physical, emotional and sexual abuse that's going on and say that there is something very wrong with that picture.

I'm the black sheep because I am working on breaking my own unhealthy chains and setting boundaries. My family is no longer allowed to treat me the way that they have gotten way too used to treating me, and they resent that. f**k it. I'm no longer dependent on them for any of my needs. The only power they have over me now is the power that I let them have over me through my epic resentments; yes, I know they are there. Yes, I know I whine about them often. However, I am working on them, talking about them and facing them instead of sitting back silently and letting my family do whatever the hell they want to do with me.

I'm the black sheep because I was "supposed to" be a miscarriage, and yet I was born anyway.

Once I was the black sheep because I was an autistic child who had constant meltdowns. Now I am the black sheep because I am an autistic man who is trying his best to take care of himself. Sometimes, I just can't f*****g win with my family. But that's their damn problem. I have my own side of the street to take care of now.

I think everyone will feel like that from time to time, even NT's, but I understand where you are coming from.

Yup. I'm the black sheep for both good and bad reasons. I went away for school and work and to have a life, which makes some of my family insanely jealous. I never got married or had kids which is the first priority for most of my family. I really can't relate to most of them or even most people in general.

Yes, I'm the least favourite of two of my aunts and one of my uncles. I deleted my entire message because I don't want to talk about these people

Last edited by BanjoGirl on 14 May 2013, 12:51 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Considering that my parents have a bad habit of talking about family troubles with their siblings, and not about triumphs, I'm fairly certain that my extended family think's I'm a drug addled superalcoholic semi-psychotic suicidal mess. Pretty par for the course for my mom's family, but the old man's blood tends to shy away. So yeah, I know I'm the black sheep, so long as their relying on information from several years ago.

Yes.

Me too

Most definitely, I always end up by myself during family gatherings