Jealous of people who are capable of dating

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I've learned that "behaving badly" and "having bad social skills" aren't inherently the same thing. A rebellious person can behave badly but have good social skills.

It is a very difficult issue. I don't know the answer. I do think some of it is women who are single are very eager to disqualify guys, but I don't think that's all of it either. There's a lot of things that people may do that they don't know they do.

Latest observation in the orchestra rehearsal yesterday:
The two people sitting right behind me were flirting a lot. Apparently, gradual approaching worked for them (which was, I think, primarily lead by her – he seems really shy). They both joined half a year ago. And though 70% of the members are female, I still manage to stay single after 3 years...

I think the underlying problem is my inability to get in touch with other people. Specifically in the orchestra, there are a lot of people that I see every week, but I've never actually talked to them.

Well yeah, you gotta put in some work.

To be perfectly honest, as a girl I'm HORRIBLY offended by the 'girls only like jerks' stereotype. I was raised from a young age to automatically sneer or swear at any douche that came within a five mile radius of me AND I get pissed off at other girls who go after jerks and often warn them to stay away (sometimes to no avail ). My female friends act very similarly to me (with an exception of one), so I don't know just where the HELL that stereotype came from. In fact, one such douche kept on hitting on me during my college prep summer sessions and even rubbed my leg with a piece of paper. The only things that kept me from falcon-punching his sorry excuse for a butt to the next galaxy were 1.) a strong moral compass, 2.) the fact that the college prep program in question would have kicked me out for bad behavior and 3.) my mom would've chewed me out for beating someone up/losing my temper.

So, to whoever said that women are to blame: SHAME ON YOU. Just shame on you.

don't worry, I can't get a girlfriend either. And I ain't shy, Im just very eccentric. But I did have a girlfriend once,
only because she approach me first.

Talking to the ladies is easy, but having an eccentric personality, make them not want to date me.

Update: Seems like the two people behind me are now actually a couple.

I'm not jealous because of her (she's really not my type and probably too young), but because he did it – unlike me.
And yes, he's also a shy nerd. Most of the approaching was done by her.

According to the statistics published today, there are 5% more men than women in Germany aged 18–24, which means that unless lots of men are into older women, some men must remain single.

I am the 5%!

Good news: I "only" have to wait 30 years until the fraction will reverse.