My life completely sucks

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It's just making me feel like the bad one because my mum says I am upsetting the whole family. I don't really want to live alone because of function and vulnerability issues, but living with just one other close relatives will be more beneficial for me, because I can still have my independence but not be completely lonely. Also I will be away from my brother, because it's no good living with somebody who you don't get on with and you can't bare to be in the same room with. It makes life hard, then you become avoidant which makes it hard to go back.

I will love to share a two-bedroom house or flat with just my mum or even just my dad. I could then be able to talk to them whenever I wanted without a critical brother sitting there getting on at me whatever I do or say and not even bothering to understand or relate. I just don't want him as a brother any more. If I live with just one person, I would work an extra day, chip in with the bills and the rent, and help out with shopping and other bits. I would be a lot happier. But it's easier said than done. My brother is weird and won't move out, even though he has more money and friends than me, and is older than me. He even prefers to live on his own but won't get off his arse and do anything about it. At least I don't really want to live completely alone. Just living with three other people is too much for me, but one person (a close relative) will do just fine.

Why can't the government make living easier for people? It's really not fair.

Would it be horrible of me to say: "At least you are not barefoot, forsaken, ugly, and homeless." And a guy.

Yeah, your life completely sucks. I agree. Your rant is valid. In your situation I'd probably cry. A lot.
(when no one was looking, of course, because I'm much too macho to be caught dead at it. theoretically)

But at least there's good weather for it.

I don't get what you expect the government to do. You can't really expect one of your parents to leave the rest of the family and move in with you.

Do you have any actual experience with living on your own? If you've never tried it, you don't know if you can do it. When I moved out, I had some concerns, too, but now I can tell that it's so relieving. I don't need to argue with anyone; I can just shut my door. Of course I'm responsible for some things myself now, but if I weren't, I'd never have become independent.

I didn't think the idea was "desperate". He mentioned to me a while back that he liked you. I just haven't said anything until now. He also used to talk about liking you quite a bit. To me that doesn't sound desperate at all, but ok. He's your age, near you, cute as can be, nice as can be, we used to chat a lot and he told me that he liked you several times but he's shy. He used to mention you quite a bit. But ok, desperate it is then. Bowing out now.

No need to make me feel guilty, I didn't mean anything in a nasty way.