I am a coward and parents want me to leave

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I am fifty years old. After living on my own from '82-'84 and again from 1985 all the way to '08, with considerable financial help from my parents along the way, I have been back living with my parents since October 2008. And it has been very difficult to say the least.

I basically ran out of money, or more precisely, my parents stopped giving me money every couple of months.

And why I have remained here now running on five years .. . Jobs remain an issue as they have for many times of my life, although I'm now saving some money working at 'MegaMart.' And then I'm kind of stuck there, often I have such an urge to get out of the house or not go back once I'm out, that I end up spending on restaurants about what it might cost for rent.

I agree with BuyerBeware.

Try again and again and again.

Now, I am self-diagnosed, but I'm reasonably sure I'm on the Spectrum. The Aspergers-Autism Spectrum explains considerably more about my life than anything else I have come across. In addition, my mom is even more Aspie than I am. And I'm really pretty sure my sister is on the Spectrum, too. And ironically, my dad feels he doesn't really fit in, because he is the neurotypical one!

My dad is a critic and judgmental. He is not a coach and a builder. And that's okay. It might have been nice when I was younger to have a coach and a builder. But at this point in my life, I can be my own coach. And I used to put a lot of effort into refuting the specifics of my dad's criticism, often just in my own thinking. I sometimes still do that, but . . . I've had more success with the approach, hey, he can believe his own way, and I'll also believe my own way.