Most people aren't worth having as friends.

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I've only met one person I would concede has been a friend to me.

But, if you're religious or willing to suffer religion, you can always find friends in church, especially since you're abstaining from personal gratification anyways. I think cannibis gets an unfair "rap". It can be calming and work better than most anti depressants and doesn't have to be smoked. It can be used safely as an extract. Unfortunately the federal government hates to admit any prejudice it used in adopting regulations on things so it continues to be controlled more stringently than the more deadly, more dangerous, and more addictive tobacco.

It largely depends on how social you are and what your priorities are. I know people who consider their week wasted if they don't meet up with friends at least 4-5 times during the week and weekend, even with work. This weekend alone I caught up with 3 different groups of people, plus 2 other friends each separately (I do not do this every week usually it's only 1 or 2 groups each week). It depends on your time management skills and how you choose to socialise too.

Yeah, I keep forgetting that most people aren't like me. Those numbers aren't even conceivable to me. I don't think I would have the energy to be around people that much, even if didn't have a social impairment.
I'm one of those people who don't enjoy socializing (mostly because the way my brain works isn't conducive to entertaining conversation / fun) but still feel the need for close relationships. So, considering that it's really hard to find friends in general (and you're right, of course, that ultimately it's a numbers game), I think I'm pretty much doomed.

People are like snowflakes and magnets. Some may have similarities but no two are identical (not even identical twins). And "opposites attract". Too close to the same polarity and you'll repel one another. That doesn't mean you are doomed, unless you choose to give up. If you choose to fail then you are most likely to fail.

The concepts of "friend" are misunderstood also, imo.

I have had only one friend my entire life. My mother never was, nor ever wanted to be (imo) my friend, nor my father, nor my siblings, nor any other relatives. Neighbors help and ask for help but would never commit to what I understand true friendship to be. My only friend has been the woman I married. People are friendly but not what I would consider friends. I have no one who wants to go fishing, biking, camping, hiking. I have no one who would be honored to be the god parent of my children. These types of relationships are rare, outside of marriage, and not overcommon in marriage either.

First, understand how to be friendly, neighborly, then study friendship.