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Starr sez: "I think you must have had some guts to come out to your collegaues about your autism"

When I was diagnosed AS/ HF Autistic at age 56, I was embarassed and desparate to keep it all a secret (Goodness knows _I_ knew what people thought of people like me!) and a wise man (Roger N Meyers the famous AS speaker of Portland, Oregon, USA fame) said to me "But, my dear! they ALREADY know (that something is different about you) you really can't hide it."

So, I just confirmed what they already sensed, that I wasn't like them. Yeah, I will admit that was a type of bravery, but the type of brave you are when you have no choice.
Merle

Hi Graelwyn,

I'm sorry to hear about your landlord. He sounds like a pig! You know you can always talk to me about stuff - either PM me on here or AspieVillage! I am your friend you know!

I am in the process of getting Housing Benefit at the moment, and I know it can take a while. Luckily, my "landlord" is a Housing Association that looks after disabled people so they are familiar with the long wait and often go to the Benefit office on our behalf. Have you considered applying for a council flat or a flat in a housing association? I say this because they are much more secure than privately renting, and the council or housing association will not kick you out if your rent is a bit delayed.

That aside, I strongly suspect that your landlord is acting illegally. You hear of that sort of thing happening in the Victorian era, not in the 21st Century. Have a look at your Tenancy Agreement (the document you signed when you moved in) and somewhere on there there should be a section entitled "What you can expect from your Landlord/Landlady" or "The Landlord agrees to.." and under that heading should be a protocol that states that the Landlord is entitled to check up on his property but only after he has written to the tenant (you in this case) and at a time mutual agreed by the tenant and landlord.