Loneliness sucks.

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Just be careful...there are some pretty rough guys in those sites. In the old days, before the internet, gay guys used to try to get together in bathrooms and places like that.

(I'm "straight," by the way).

Likewise, be careful that you're not engaging in promiscuous sex simply to compensate for loneliness and depression. It can be just as harmful as any other addiction. Do you seek solely sex or an actual relationship?

I'm in the same boat. It does suck. I'm sorry that you are having a sad time.

Yes it does.

I have ben alone for 10 years and i have no hope to break out of it. Its extremly depressing. I started a thread about it, but nobody cared.

Yes, as I think Jacoby pointed out, using distractions to avoid loneliness will tend to ruin them for you. That's partially why all I like to do at this point in life is work and cuddle lol.

Remember there's no point in giving up, because your emotions never will. They'll just keep torturing you until you appease them. But even if you don't succeed at first, they'll usually back off if they see you trying new things, learning what it takes, getting closer to your goal.

I adore femme boys, btw Flaming is annoying because it's basically a stereotypical, deliberate affectation. But guys that are just naturally girly are awesome

And I just shamelessly bug people at work now. Used to be paranoid about bothering people, just went and did my own thing. I know people feel uncomfortable talking to me, so I rotate through my victims, and just talk until they make some excuse why they have to do something else. Keeps me going. Just something I need from other people to survive.

I tend to program for hours at a time, though, so I don't bug people too much.

Many of us are lonely. I'm a masculine gay guy in a long distance relationship (we stayed together for about seven years before that) and although we are in daily phone contact I get so lonely not being able to be with him. Due to a few circumstances and commitments we can't get back together just yet. We're true soul mates and he's very likely on the spectrum as well. I ought to know and was only diagnosed myself 5 years ago!

I can cope with it OK with my various interests, writing etc but I can't wait for the day we can be together again.

I would urge everyone not to give up on finding that someone special. Sometimes it just happens. He was in a relationship of about a year but we seemed to click from the start and after a few months we got together.

I do have to deal with the physical aspect of separation which I usually get from my online images stuff, as I don't like to just guys casually, but occasionally it happens. One must always be cautious when meeting strangers online, and try to "read between the lines" if possible. Most guys are just out to have fun or seek a relationship. But I'm perfectly contented in my relationship, as it goes much deeper than the physical.

Everyone deserves a shot at happiness and shouldn't give up on finding Mr Right.