Extreme sensitivity

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For some reason I have no trouble arguing with people. But if someone tries to argue with me I get very defensive and upset. I guess I can dish it out but I can't take it :/

I agree with so many of the posts in this thread that I can't quote them all.

I do the same, online is a big scary place that's often fun but almost as often it's terrifying.
Mail or phone calls that I expect will frighten & preoccupy me are handled by my boyfriend.

Cognitive or rational therapy (the prescribed antidote to black & white thinking) has not been something I'm open to. Even thinking about that sort of approach gets me angry, for no proper or logical reason. Appreciate krex discussing the thought pattern behind what we're describing & I mean no hostility towards her for bringing up the type of therapy, only explaining I can't be unbiased about it. Suffice it to say, perhaps it works well for some folks & not for others...
I believe strangers dislike me, and that it wouldn't improve if they got to know me. I may be just as negative towards them, I admit.

I’m overly sensitive to fictitious statements made by those whom I thought I knew; those who I like or by those whom I liked.... It drops me on the spot when I realize what happened. I don't understand deception when it's spoken to me by those who/whom I trust/trusted. It hurts.

People I don't know and/or trust, nope; I'm a rock. (This may be a self-protection mechanism on my part.)

That's me. If I see something on the news about an abused or murdered child or animal, I weep, obsess over it, become angry, lose sleep over it, picture the whole scene over and over again -- vividly -- yet if my neighbor, whom I care about, breaks down and cries over how unhappy she is in her marriage, or my mother is upset about something, I feel next to nothing.

This is one of my key issues , so i can relate to this thread totally .This oversensitivity is the bane of my life , i hate it with a passion but like someone else has said in this thread , apologies because i have forgotten who , i also have times where i seem to be completly insensitive and unafeccted by something. I seem to be hurt or upset by rediculosly small events in life and yet completly unafected by the death of close relatives . I dont understand myself at all . Does anyone know wether this oversensitivity is an aspie trait or wether its something entirely seperate ?.
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Oh yes, I do have horrible undersensitivity at times too. Today my dad was over, he's got throat cancer and has lost a ton of weight. I love my dad but I just couldn't FEEL the kind of sadness I should feel. I am sad in my mind that he isn't doing well, but I don't "feel" sadness about it. It's like sometimes I think my emotions instead of feeling them.

When someone gives me construtive critism, i usually shrink inside..
I will usually then slip and say something critical of the other person..
A day doesn't go by when i think that my sensitivities need to be some-
what nullified. Though, on other days, I think maybe i have no feelings...

Hey, shouldn't this thread be titled another, "I hate god because he made me ASD!"

Same here
Then I'll be thinking about it for days after...

I have been thinking about this for awhile.It is so difficult for me to qualify this "sensitivity" because it seems to change all the time and I cant figure it out(need to find a scientific way to qualify it....)

Sometimes.....I seem impervious to comments from others...insults bounce off me,I laugh at many of them.I have a sense of self that seems untouched by others name calling.....

Other times....someone will say or do something(even constructive criticism)that I will not be able to stop thinking about and actually triggers,panic attack,increased pulse,almost rageful(not tearful)but "attacked" feelings.


I dont understand how this ,seemingly contridictory sensations can exist,but they do.There must be some subtle difference in how I am percieving the experience.....?I dont get it.

This is such a complex issue I almost can't say anything that makes any sense. Of course I've given it much thought in the past, as the experience of being completely overwhelmed to a perceived slight, or being oversensitive, has occurred so often and for so many years.

The last example of a time when I didn't take something too sensitively was when I was checking out at Walmart. The cashier was a mahu - in Hawaii that means a male dressed up as a woman and acting like a woman - somewhat different from a transvestite - anyway I have experience with these effeminate yet outgoing "women" and LOVE them. They're so out there and say what they think and are always joking. Anyway, she said "Oooh girl, you need to do something about those whites" while she stroked her hair, referring to my grey hair. I laughed. Had it been delivered in a different way, I wonder if I would have been pissed off.

Here's an example of something that turns me off to people pretty much completely:
If I cook a meal for them and they don't compliment the cooking and/or don't offer to clean up. They will forever be on my negative list.

Or of course if people disagree with me. I'm way too sensitive to that. Argh.

I am a male and I have this same exact problem. I take criticism, way to seriously. Even minor points of constructive criticism go straight to my heart as you said and effect me utterly.