sly279 wrote:
I have tons of hobbies. My life will,never be happy alone.
I'm not nor shall I ever be one of you who can be happy alone with their hobbies. Unl ss they event some emotion killing drug.
Worlds a big place full of all kinds of differences yet you can't see that people have different kinds and ways of being happy.no according to you and you like everyone finds happiness the same way every single person on this planet finds happiness through hobbies and objects blah blah blah.
Well 7billion people pretty much shows most peopl find happiness with others not being alone.
You people trying to make me be like you or be happy alone while you have bf/gf all you do is depress me and make me want to kill myself.
Sly, you see something that's not there, something that was never there.
Human relationships are about convenience, what you see on the surface of other peoples relationships is an illusion, because underneath there is a MASSIVE amount of compromise and vanity. Women date up (hypergamy, briffaults law) men date beautiful women (vanity), it's all just vainglorious nonsense once you move past the surface of things.
Where does that lead you? You have to focus on your male peers at this point, men like you have to go your own way, because what you see in women is a BIG lie. Women want men that make their lives comfortable; men want sexy women, which is just another version of that vanity. There is no 'love' in any of this; it's just vanity.
You don't want to be alone, but guess what? at some point, you are going to have to grow up, and realize that every action that everyone makes is heading to that point... even ideal couples spend a significant amount of time apart, and even when they're together the romance is basically dead because if you feel that kind of puppy love perpetually it would be impossible to function in society.
This desire that you have WILL kill you eventually, IICC you have been this way for quite awhile. It's not a question of if it will kill you, but when. It is going to consume you so you have to let it go to focus on yourself and your friendship with your peers.
But you don't always have to be alone, there will always be a lot of moments where you will be or even amongst others who make you FEEL alone, but MGTOW minded men tend to focus on bonds between their male friends and hobbies, because your male peers will never care if you're an aspie, if you're unemployed or vexed by some particular vice (as female biology is with concern to its own posterity).
Why do you think you have been alone for so long? If being with a woman was any kind of sign of virtue, you would have been with one by now, but the truth is right in front of you, you just need to ask "why" and follow the evidence. It will lead you back to your friends.
Your posts always amuse me Sly since I can empathize with your grief, but you seem very reluctant to take the steps necessary to actualize yourself, here is some advice from the bible:
"I find more bitter than death the woman whose heart is a snare and whose hands are chains, the man that pleases god will escape her, but the sinner she ensnares" Ecclesiastes 7:26.
You are being stymied by an ideal notion that you have to let go.