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i cant see you, only this picture that i have of you:

RadiationHazard

in it, i dont see utters or a person deserving of scorn or contempt

in fact i can have respect for this person...

maybe your feelings have something to do with your environment.. and that you could do better in a new environment

the trick now is to find the right environment for yourself

everybody in the world is different and that makes everywhere in the world very different


initial failure causes an increase in motivation
continuous failure drasticly hinders motivation and can damage self esteem
at this point one would need to find a new motivation for the moment
success must match self esteem
high success with low self esteem can result in depression


this means that now, you have to try to take things one step at a time

a good first step in new motivation might be to identify an environment that would be suitable for you

but also its up for you to decide what a good first step would be.. that one thing that could turn your life around and allow you to be in a situation that you can feel motivated

Bad with decisions...

I think I am just exactly like you and stupid mean people always make us think of ourselves like that.

I believe a real loser is someone who gets pleasure or feels better hurting anyone who won't defend himself (bullies)

You surely are not the last one in everything, that is why I am here for

Moderator, delete this post. I thought I had something to contribute but I have nothing to say that hasn't already been said.

Radiation Hazard,


Why would anyone here hate you? Many of us have been through the same pain you're feeling now. No one here hates you for not being the happy, perky social butterfly. To judge by the comments about NT's, many members here hate happy, perky social butterflies.


The first thing you need to understand is that you are accepted here. We will be behind you for as along as you need support.

The second thing is that you are not a bad person. You say you have trouble making good decisions. Welcome to the human race. Nobody makes the right decision every time.

Third, life can get better. Trust me. I've been there. I won't lie and tell you it will be easy, because it won't. But it will be more than worth the effort.

Next, know that you are not destined to be a loser forever. You just haven't found the games you will excel at. They are out there. Keep looking. Don't give up.

Finally, be aware that whatever you try to do to improve your life, and I would encourage you to seek out a psychologist and get counseling, you are not alone. A whole lot of nice people here will give whatever help and hugs we can.




Ikari Gendo

We all love you, here. You can turn to us. Do you want to know what my favourite song was, when I was first diagnosed with Depression/Psychosis? I'm a Loser by The Beatles. That was my favourite sing from the time that I had my last childhood accident, at the age of six, until I was diagnosed, nine years ago. It was pretty hard for me to work at a job that I hated, soing simple tasks that were meant for a Mentally Challenged person to be doing, while that song kept playing in my head, over and over again. I was convinced that I was a loser and I hated myself with a passion. I don't feel that I'm a loser, anymore. I'm not working at that factory, anymore, but I don't feel like a loser, anymore. Just give it a couple of years. You might not feel like a loser, anymore. It took me two years to realise that I'm not a loser.

Why would we hate you? Some of us can't function socially, so we have the deepest synpathy for people with social difficulties. Why would we hate for being born with a brain wired differently from NTs?

you are deffinitly a loser if you give up but if you keep on trying to succed you instantly become a winner cause your no longer giving up on hope. all of us are winners it's all about weather you give up or not!

You think you're a loser? You have no idea Try dropping out of college twice, losing financial aid and regaining it, just to mess up in classes too bad and losing fin aid again.

And I still don't call myself a loser, just a -edited-screwup.

You're only a loser because you tell yourself you are.

And if it helps you feel better, I didn't have friends, romance, money, or social skills either when i was younger.

You are not a loser because you have failed at something. Losers are people who don't ever try. In 1952, Roger Bannister was branded as a "failure" by the British press because he finished fourth at the Helsiniki Olympics in the 1,500 meters. He learned from his "failure" and broke the four-minute mile two years later.

People who call others "losers" and "failures," are often the losers themselves, the ones who never try anything and dedicate their lives to superficial things. The people who criticized Roger Bannister didn't realize that Bannister was a medical student who trained on his own time. Fourth place could hardly be considered a failure under these circumstances. The winner of that event, Josey Barthel of Luxembourg, also trained after work. I'd like to see any athlete today who has the dedication (or the intelligence) to do what Bannister did. It was just a different time.

We all get down and depressed.

I get knocked down
But I get up again
You're never going to keep me down.................................

Davesaint

A winner is someone who has failed repeatedly but kept going until they got it right. Even after they get it right winners still look for ways to do it even better the next time.

There is a quote saying that a hero is someone who really does all he can, even if he fails. I'm not sure I'd go that far, but definitely if you really, really try you're not a loser and should be at peace with yourself (easier said than done, I know)

Well the British press seems to exist solely to brand people as failures regardless of merit

But seriously, I suppose loser is an attitude, not the fact that people aren't successful. I think people generally have a lot of respect for people who try hard even if they aren't successful. My life could be termed a failure by many standards but I don't see myself as a loser because (i) I try hard and I think I am developing myself to be a little bit better everyday and (ii) it isn't over yet so the only way I could be a loser would be if I had given up trying - which I haven't.

Hence, I am a loser. I believe strongly that
success comes unasked for, and untried for,
while failure is the direct result of attempting
at all.

That perfectly describes me, so I'm a loser as well.