Sick of people telling me there is nothing wrong with me

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In all seriousness, I feel the exact same way! I think there is definitely something wrong with me as well, but people keep telling me "There's nothing wrong with you!", but I think there is. It really doesn't make me feel better at all!

This is easier for me though. It's easier to type how I feel than organise a time to meet someone and then try and explain how I feel.

I just like typing things when I feel them.

I think what I'm saying is I actually want advice on how to improve, rather than be offered consolation or be told, it's just bad luck you haven't met someone yet or "it'll just work out".

Or "don't make an effort and you'll find someone" which won't work because I'm so shy that I'll always be overlooked.

If I keep doing off putting things I'm going to keep putting men off me.

Men like it when you compliment them on how they dress.

Ok, maybe my reply won't be so... haven-friendly but:

Any human past 30 or so who never got a significant relationship has certainly something amiss, like a missing fundamental element - or a combinations of missing elements or undesirable traits.

I don't know you in person so I can't tell what's wrong with you; I can just speculate of few things, but I might be mistaken:

- You extremely fixate on one guy at time and far too long time, I recall you said that your crush lasted years; this is too much, you really have to let it go. He certainly noticed that you like him, you tried to talk to him, to invite him; those things girls don't do it with male friends randomnly. He knows it but he is not acting on it - so please move on to someone else.

- I recall you mentioned you're tall and larger build than the average female in your country; you need to realize that this is a big disadvantage, and guys shorter than you wil probably never think they have a chance with you (that in case you would accept smaller guys).

- I recall you mentioned in a thread that you're English living in Scotland, and many scot kids were racist toward you when you were a kid.
If there's one thing I learned from my tinder experiments is that dating is extremely racially biased (it's a subcautious racism) - but most adult people won't admit it be like "Oh I can't help it, I only like <race>" (big lie).
Don't fool yourself that this isn't affecting your chances negatively , it doesn; but they won't admit it to you because they are adults now.
And I bet many many guys in your cohntry would be like anxious to tell their parents they like someone from a nation they (the parents) hated so much.

There's one more thing but I won't say it here.

Sorry for the typos but I type on mobile and can't edit due to this f*** captcha thing.