my dad saw the cuts on my wrists

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Possibly because the thread was misplaced in the General Autism forum, so your thread has been relocated in The Haven.

I know what it's like getting no support for s**t like this. To this day my parents won't acknowledge a ton of my mental problems, and the ones they do acknowledge they tiptoe around on a good day, disparage on a bad day. I love them and I understand that it's hard to deal with a child who has problems like mine; it's distressing because there's so little you can do to help.

At the same time, I resent them for it. I never cut myself but I have an ED and I used to hide my food. They tried to deal with it by telling me off, threatening to tell my school and friends about it, it was messed up. You can't fix a mental illness by shouting at a kid; in fact they just added to it, since I still have an ED and now a fear of being told off.

I'm not much older than you so I'm not sure what practical advice I can give you, especially since we're in different countries. Try and seek as much help independently as you can, from doctors, charities, social workers etc.. If you really want out of there and you want some support you're going to need some evidence for it.

Most people don't. But look at it this way: why should they? Everyone's in the same boat; life somehow sucks one way or the other.


I don't think this is true ... you have to work the system. And be prepared to go through a lot of doctors before you find one that is helpful. Keep hammering at it. Since you have self-harmed I suggest you make an appointment with a psychiatrist (or get a referral from your gp.)


Self-harm is a symptom. And thoughts of burning down your home count too.

Your parents have their own lives. Leave them to it. They probably don't know how to help anyway.

Just an idea, maybe you could volunteer for a charity like the salvation army to have a reference and something for your cv

Well, you can focus on not getting what you want from your parents, or you can focus on getting on your feet in life. I chose the latter and I'm glad I did, because I love my parents, but everyone in life has to fix themselves, when you get right down to it. Parents included. So when I was 19, after my medical issues had been treated, I decided to get myself out of my bad situation by moving on with my life and starting college. I still felt fairly bad at the time I made the decision, but keep in mind that sometimes how you feel is more of a place you are moving through, than one you can exist at forever, and some problems literally can be walked away from. So that is what I did. I thought to myself "Today, I'm going to be a person who doesn't have problems," and I went on like that until they disappeared over the horizon and are now just memories.

Now my parents, they still have their own problems, but they are not my problems.

Seconded. It's hard but you learn to carry forward...sometimes one small step at a time.