What can we do to prevent rejection?

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This person basically said, "You didn't tell the truth so I won't read any e-mail from you anymore!"

so you could have wasted a lot more time emailing them.
at least they told you now.

But, we got along so well before!

I can't believe it!

so you found that they are being stupid or stubborn or whatever.
you could have wasted years before finding this out.

it is true that you cannot totally avoid rejection...

btw, out of interest were you actually trying to deceive them or did they miscontrue something you'd said?

I think they just misconstrued something I said.

Any of you can e-mail me about this, you know!

If it was a misunderstanding, it would be worth trying to explain to her how that came about. There's no harm in trying. It could even work out well. It may not, so don't go into it with any real expectations, positive or negative. Just give it a shot.

What if she still never writes me again?

thats not your problem

I'm thinking it is!

Hard as it is to stop dwelling, no matter how much you dwell on this and question the whys and wherefores, it won't bring her back if she has made up her mind. We cannot control how someone else behaves. Only how we react to their behaviour...now why the heck can I not absorb and apply that to myself.

well that is your problem

Considering all of the "what ifs" can be really tempting, but try not to worry about it too much yet. If she still never writes you again? Well, there may not be any changing that, but you will at least come away with the knowledge that you did everything you could to make things right. If you did your part, and it simply didn't work, that doesn't say anything bad about you. Maybe it just wasn't a great fit, maybe it was something wrong with her. Regardless, you will not have to wonder whether or not you did everything you could have or should have.

I believe that, but the reason why I think it's my fault is because this person said one little word, "you."

Was that in reference to the "You didn't tell the truth" part?

If so, did she elaborate on when you didn't tell the truth, or just say that you hadn't? If she's not willing to say when exactly it was that you supposedly lied, whenever she claims to have "caught" you in a lie, then you may have done nothing wrong. She may simply be looking for an excuse, a fabricated explanation as to why she won't talk to you any more, either because she doesn't want to tell you the real reason, or because she doesn't have a reason. Both of those could suggest that the issue is with her, not you.

YOU have just given a tiny, itsy, bitsy, little three letter word power over YOU. YOU are better then that. There is no reason for YOU to give that kind of power to anyone/anything, be it a human, animal, or three simple letters.