Another year ending in failure

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I was in your position not too long ago, actually it's debatable if I'm still there now. What helped me was reminding myself that we all have low points, if we give up then we never find out what's on the other side it make take awhile to get there but it will be worth it when we do. I also played Metal Gear Solid Peace Walker and heard one of the few quotes that helped change how I see the world, it effected me so much that it's actually my signature on this website.

Winter and especially all that Christmas holidays and new year's resolution stuff, can make a depressive person definately suicidal. And if its frustrating for people without autism, having autism makes everything much more harder. I really feel you my friend. Im keeping diary and just out of curiosity I look at my new year's resolution of 2017. Guess what? I wont change a word for 2018 cause nothing really worked out. But thats the rule with new year resolutions and not the exception. So you shouldnt care that much really.

I dont want to be indiscreet but do you mind telling us some of your failures you say that are making you feel like dying?

I failed to make new friends, I keep failing to get a girlfriend despite wanting one so much, and I've failed to develop any special talents.

Lately I believe that what makes it hard for most of us in the friendship thing is looking for a friend in the wrong places. Its like being a black guy living in a redneck state like Alabama. Looking for like-minded people can make quite a difference. Even from this forum, did you try that?

As for the girlfriend, I may seem like an insesitive prick here, but did you try to lower your standards? Im saying this, because I know so many people that always going for the out-of-their-league girl and getting faceplanted when in reality there are chicks that would love to be with them.

Lastly TBH I really dont get the thing with the failure of development of special talents. Are we talking about learning guitar but you end up sucking at it? Because if thats the case, so f*****g what? Find another hobby that u do well and gives u pleasure.

Very true. Culture distorts things this time of year and tricks people into being retrospectively judgemental, and not being satisfied unless they were absolutely unfailingly successful and happy and productive and awesome all year. Proverbial mole hills get made mountains once you start that New Year freakout - "OMG what am I doing with my life? I didn't do XYZ at all and I completely failed at XYZ. I suck, it's been a crap year because I wasn't successful at everything and got everything I ever wanted all year, and everything didn't always go my way so obviously next year is going to be the same."
It's always negative and always over-reactive. People remember the bad stuff, and fixate on the things they failed at or didn't get to do, and never on the good stuff they did do or the positive things that were in their lives the past year.
@ Marknis - come on, dude. Not getting a girlfriend or being less-than-motivated about bringing your interests into fruition, or even not making any new friends is NOT enough of a reason to kill yourself. You might be over-reacting a bit there. Besides, the best thing about being alive in 2018 will be getting a brand spanking new shot at fulfilling these things left undone from 2017. Maybe you'll come up with some new ideas, maybe thing will happen that take you in unexpected directions. Anything could happen. But you have to be alive for it to do so. If you're dead you'll never be able to achieve any of this. And so what if you didn't get those things this year? Other things have happened to you too, some of which were awesome, if you'd been looking.
And I know you'll probably just argue with this and negate all of it, which seems to be your real issue from what you write here - depression and pessimism and a tendency to see things negatively. Maybe you can have a chance to address this in 2018, and that will ergo make things look up for you?

The women I am deemed compatible with are already low in regards to standards and I do not mesh with them at all. They tend to be either hyper religious or have some sort of debilitating mental condition and they don't share any common interests with me. They also tend to have chromosomal imbalances and are unattractive to me. I am not demanding a cheerleader, supermodel, or the prom queen but someone who is decently attractive.

They might "deem" you compatible with a certain group. Who are they to deem you so?

Supermodels etc are out of league for like everyone. How bad would be a super religious girl? Its Christmas after all

All I say is if you have troubles in girlfriend section then u must have a Casanova mindset, finding strenghts you like in every individual instead of trying to find a girl to fill all your checkboxes..

If you start a GoFundMe and post it here in the community, I'd be more than happy to pitch in! I don't have much, but if we were all to pitch in together, I think we could help get you back on your feet.

I know how you feel!

It's the worst. They only care about shopping for clothes or shoes or purses, they only like sappy pop or country music, read only sappy romance or boring western novels as well as only watch boring TV shows, think women are supposed to be silent as well as subservient, and wonder where all the "good Christian men" are despite how they mostly date sexist bad boys or drunk rednecks.

I've often wondered if I'll have to start chain smoking, drinking liquor, and telling women they smell like a horse before punching them in the face to finally have a girlfriend.

If you do go down to that level, it would be an extreme disservice to you.

Why would you even think about having those characteristics?

I see the bad boys, retired military, rednecks, and ghetto thugs who get the most girls exhibiting those traits. Most of the women here hate guys outside those demographics. They think anyone not in those four groups are "weird" or "gay" or even serial killers in waiting even though those four are the most likely to bully people or worse.

Yeah....but those girls also dump those guys. Trust me!