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goldfish21
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08 May 2018, 2:29 pm

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Disagree. People fix disabilities all the time. Sometimes through medicine, others through prosthetics or technology etc etc.


That's not fixing a disability, that's making it easier to tolerate and live with. If taking whatever helps (medication, fake limb etc.) away means the problems come back, then it's not fixed, it's just being controlled... I have some stuff that's been put in my body because of my disability, but it's not fixing it, it just controls the symptoms in a way that prevents them from killing me. If they were taken away without being replaced by new ones, I would not be fixed, I'd be dead.

It's true that some things, like problems caused by autism, can fade away with time, but it's not because the autism dissapears (=gets fixed), it's because the person has found ways to deal with it so that it won't bother them anymore. When a person loses an arm, he becomes disabled and he's still disabled when he learns to live with just one arm even if there aren't so many problems in his life anymore because of it.


Doesn't make it any less worthwhile.

I bet NONE of my friends/family that wear hearing aids would give them up and say "F it, I'd rather not hear as much as possible."

And same applies to me with ASD; I treat & manage my symptoms with natural medicines and it allows me to live a much fuller life of work/play/socializing. It requires that I continue to take said medicine vs. a one shot deal and I'm good to go for life, but so what? I'm okay with "fixes," requiring maintenance vs. being permanent. I much prefer it over no fix at all.


I completely agree. I just wanted to point out the difference I see between "fixing" and "learning to deal with it."


Aaah, language semantics. I would consider "learning to deal," a phrase that meant "accepting it for what it is and coping with it," vs. a treatment. I'd consider eye glasses as a fix for sight, whereas it sounds like maybe you'd only consider laser eye surgery a fix because it's a permanent correction.

Regardless, whether via medicine like myself, or technology, people better themselves and overcome their disabilities all the time. People aren't all permanently disabled to the same degree with no hope of improvement, whether temporary relief or a permanent cure, there are many different things that people can do to influence change upon various disabilities and how they impact their lives.


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08 May 2018, 2:53 pm

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I knew my life is over when you are not being accepted in this world. I knew I become a late bloomer at 27 when I started taking lot of advice about dating, sex, relationships, friends and that. Still struggling. 9 years worth of different psychologists and still nothing changed me. What the problem is? You can't fix disabilities, hence the problem is how women sees me.

Life is over.


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08 May 2018, 3:03 pm

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all i was saying, was that when I fully discovered just how abnormal I was [at your present age], I struggled with it for decades, not knowing what to do with and about myself, in a sort of wilderness of meaning, I didn't now why I was on earth, what I was doing here, i didn't get how and why i could be so unwanted. I was stumbling in the dark [so to speak] without a clue. acceptance is what happens when you exit this wilderness period and discover that 1]"normal" is not all it's made out to be, and 2] I am a creation of the universe just like all the rest, no worse and no better. some folk are outliers, not meant for social functioning. I am one of those outliers. I do have a function, but it is not the same function as the social types. it took me decades to come to the point where i can accept this even if 100% understanding is still not there.


Even though I did not create this thread, your comment here is something I have been needing to read. This helps me. Thank you, auntblabby.



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09 May 2018, 12:34 am

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all i was saying, was that when I fully discovered just how abnormal I was [at your present age], I struggled with it for decades, not knowing what to do with and about myself, in a sort of wilderness of meaning, I didn't now why I was on earth, what I was doing here, i didn't get how and why i could be so unwanted. I was stumbling in the dark [so to speak] without a clue. acceptance is what happens when you exit this wilderness period and discover that 1]"normal" is not all it's made out to be, and 2] I am a creation of the universe just like all the rest, no worse and no better. some folk are outliers, not meant for social functioning. I am one of those outliers. I do have a function, but it is not the same function as the social types. it took me decades to come to the point where i can accept this even if 100% understanding is still not there.


Even though I did not create this thread, your comment here is something I have been needing to read. This helps me. Thank you, auntblabby.


Yes, I agree, this is a really powerful comment. Thank you.


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09 May 2018, 1:53 am

^^^you're both welcome :flower:



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09 May 2018, 5:11 am

Just because you have those difficulties does not mean :arrow: life is over :arrow:

The difficulties might get better, stay the same or get worse

But there is more to life than those difficulties

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09 May 2018, 6:59 pm

The word I am looking for is 'prejudice'. This majorly happens from able bodied community seeing disabled people need to 'fix' themselves up. Living in Australia isn't flash as I thought we are luckiest country in the world. Sadly that is a myth. We aren't lucky.

What I am trying to say is attitudes can fix, even those people create prejudice against people with disabilities. Like they see us Aspies are asexual and poor at communication. Would be fixing ourselves helps them to change their perspectives towards us? Hell, lot of women I met never see me attractive so is it who I am that I can't fix? My attitude is fixable but that isn't their reasoning to reject me. There a difference between accepting others as different rather than fix them makes yourself comfortable.

So how it is? Its 21st century, people especially younger generation becoming 'hoggers' to media and technology where lot of stereotypes and prejudice portrayed. They are learning the negatives and potential mistakes. It like 40 year old virgin movie occupying peer pressure to compare themselves with their friends who had sex.

I learned myself not to compare myself with other people. That is example of attitude problem that can be fixed. Unfortunately not majority of young people including NTs who are not learning. They repeat mistakes, being denialists and stigmatising. Like 'black lives matter' compare to 'white lives matter'.