22 Aug 2018, 6:01 am
kraftiekortie wrote:
It might.
What also might help is if you actually go to a club one night. Experience it for yourself. It might confirm your irritation with them, and help you stop getting upset about “missing out.”
What also might help is if you actually go to a club one night. Experience it for yourself. It might confirm your irritation with them, and help you stop getting upset about “missing out.”
Well I am terrified of London at night. I could arrange to go clubbing in a nearer more familiar town with them. Just to get it off my chest. I know I'm being silly but I just feel that everybody but me has tried it, even the quiet, shy types, and even if they now hate it and don't do it any more, the fact is they can still say they've been.
I don't even want to go clubbing, I hate the idea of it, but seeing everybody else having experienced these things make me kind of want to go. I wish I was just oblivious to what others are doing around me and I wish I didn't know the meaning of the word "peer pressure", and being an Aspie I naturally shouldn't be worrying about these things, should I? I mean, this is where I say autism is a cruel thing, if you're the type of Aspie who is aware of what you should be doing. Yes everybody's got their own ideas of lifestyles but clubbing seems to be something a vast majority of people have done in their lives.
The only person in the world I know who hasn't been clubbing nor cares for it is a friend of mine who has Fragile-X. But I don't think she dwells on what she's missing out on like I do. She just says "I hate clubs, so why would I ever want to go to one?" You're lucky if you don't think that way. But I do. It eats me up inside. I even broke down at work, and I love my job (although I didn't let anybody know I was crying, as I felt embarrassed). Yes it is ruling my life, I know.
22 Aug 2018, 9:24 am
Joe90 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
It might.
What also might help is if you actually go to a club one night. Experience it for yourself. It might confirm your irritation with them, and help you stop getting upset about “missing out.”
What also might help is if you actually go to a club one night. Experience it for yourself. It might confirm your irritation with them, and help you stop getting upset about “missing out.”
Well I am terrified of London at night. I could arrange to go clubbing in a nearer more familiar town with them. Just to get it off my chest. I know I'm being silly but I just feel that everybody but me has tried it, even the quiet, shy types, and even if they now hate it and don't do it any more, the fact is they can still say they've been.
I don't even want to go clubbing, I hate the idea of it, but seeing everybody else having experienced these things make me kind of want to go. I wish I was just oblivious to what others are doing around me and I wish I didn't know the meaning of the word "peer pressure", and being an Aspie I naturally shouldn't be worrying about these things, should I? I mean, this is where I say autism is a cruel thing, if you're the type of Aspie who is aware of what you should be doing. Yes everybody's got their own ideas of lifestyles but clubbing seems to be something a vast majority of people have done in their lives.
The only person in the world I know who hasn't been clubbing nor cares for it is a friend of mine who has Fragile-X. But I don't think she dwells on what she's missing out on like I do. She just says "I hate clubs, so why would I ever want to go to one?" You're lucky if you don't think that way. But I do. It eats me up inside. I even broke down at work, and I love my job (although I didn't let anybody know I was crying, as I felt embarrassed). Yes it is ruling my life, I know.
Stop trying to be NT,like seriously. Not everyone is meant for Clubs.You shouldn't be caring what others are doing.You're not them.Yes it may seem painful that you may not get to experience things,(such as clubbing) that everyone else gets to experience,but that's part of life.Being on the AS/ASD spectrum,you need to accept the fact there will be things that you will miss out on that everyone else will get to experience.
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