It sucks having not much in common with other aspies

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It sucks not wanting to have much in common with others. If you have only a few interests, then you limit your chances. It’s your choice.

What you're interested in isnt always a choice.

Well that's a harsh unreasonable comment. Should people pretend to what they are not?

I've always found it difficult to make female friends because I'm just not on the same wavelength as most NT women. It's not that I'm choosing to be difficult. We just haven't got anything in common. And it's more than that too. Our perspectives are different.

Ive got 2 friends ive had for years who i just get on with. We all love music which is a connector and we have similarish outlooks on what is important in life. None of us are terribly materialistic or fashionable.

I've made some new friends recently and just fit in with them. The contrast is stark between them and people I've tried to fit in with in the past. I can finally relax. I'm not always having to be "on" and thinking of things to say. I can just be myself. It's so much better than trying to force a connection.

Even with this new guy I've met. I find that we just get along and I'm amazed. Every single attempt at a relationship I've had in the past has been forced and didn't work. And this isn't. Hes easy to communicate with and although we're not into the exact same hobbies and interests, he's interesting enough and enthusiastic enough about his pasions for me to want to go to new concerts and exhibitions with him to experience new things.

It's been a tough, long road, but I finally have a niche and I thoroughly understand how hard it is to feel isolated and to feel like you not only don't fit in, but can't fit in, and can't please anyone no matter how hard you try.

It might not be necessary to have a lot of things in common

You might have to look at other groups

Someone might have more in common, than it appears