Why does no one want me to have a relationship?

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okay. i stand corrected. just on that little bit. ty for verifying, Bea. (then again, i said "i didnt see". and i am not omnipresent ^^). the bulk of my point stands, and i wont be posting in this thread again.

marknis i have never read a post from you whose feelings i didn't think weren't totally grounded in reality


what you feel is valid and normal

His feelings are valid.

But it is also valid to say that he should do something to lessen his bad feelings.

Keep in mind OP that just because people are giving you advice doesn't mean they don't consider your feelings understandable or valid. We as aspies tend to be problem solvers; when people share their issues with us we naturally want to find ways to fix them and share them with those people. It doesn't mean we don't empathize with you. It just means that we show our empathy by providing solutions and advice.


While I personally am very empathetic, listening to somebody complain about the same issues constantly will drain my empathy. I'm not saying you're doing this, and if you are doing this you're not doing it on purpose. When we're suffering, we tend to focus only on how we feel, and forget that the people around us are limited in what support they can provide.

I believe one should, at least, consider the input of others, rather than dismiss it outright.

Why wouldn’t I want you to have a girlfriend? Why would anybody think that way—unless they were nuts themselves ?

I wish you can get to know a greater variety of people. Even in the Bible Belt, there are people who are not either hip-hoppers or rednecks.

There a wide variety of attitudes and lifestyles in Austin. I have friends who live in Taylor, Tx, which is close. I've been to Austin once while visiting and found it a very interesting city.

You're not an "Incel," Marknis.

I am not and I don't like how some members think every romantically single man who posts on here is an incel.

I have suffered from depression for 12 years. That's abnormally long from what I understand.

I’ve had depression alternating between severe and moderate for (28 - 12) years. 16 years.

So I understand the circular thinking that offends and irritates others.

A change of scene would do you good. Therapy hasn’t helped much for me in the long run but meeting a person who truly cares for me does turn my week into a better less depressed one.
So I understand why you want a relationship as that wd be the best outlet to generate that positive feeling for u.

However after the initial

What is called ‘honeymoon ‘ period
The mentality of both people subsides to that of whatever they had prior to meeting each other.

So fr example fr me i was still chronically depressed despite the relationship . Which made it compounded n worse bcuz i tried extra hard to not let it affect or be seen by the other person. And of course he still knew n was affected n that was v bad as I felt guilty too

So that’s why it’s best to try to find a route that will help minimize ur depression
Lift ur mindset
Etc
Meds help me a lot to think clearly n less circular although If u see my posts i still think in an irritating
Round n round manner n ofyen still dwell on negativity.. but less than before meds

What else helps is 5-HTP n
drinking half a teaspoon of apple cider vinegar in a cup of water mixed with honey a few times a day.
Also things like being hyper fr 10 minutes or more.

I hope u try these suggestions

the army provided me a change of scenery, for better or worse, I wonder if the OP has considered trying it.