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I see the admins edited the original title of my post.

Makes me wonder if they're trying to hide something.

No, I edited it a while ago to stop other users who didn't actually take the time to read your post or disregarded it, and instead reacted to the title at face value, which some had already inevitably done to try to turn it into a left-right thing.

Dear Dorkseid,
What I read is that primarily you were feeling used, then discarded by someone who seems to manipulate people for the purpose of manipulating OTHER people.
Dump the boyfriend, convince those around her SHE was used?
For attention, sympathy, control?
Sounds like you were let down when you most needed to depend on her.
BUT!
Though pulling an infected tooth is painful, and there is healing to go through, it needs to come out.
Though this came at the worst time, you needed her out of your life.
Sounds like she created much drama out of the breakup and basked in attention.
You cannot live with someone like that close to you.
The phrase ‘Good Riddance ‘ comes to mind!

Dunno if this will yield anything for you, but you might want to look through the thread Autistic-friendly workplaces.


Yep the feminist movement does need to get better educated about autism. Alas we're probably going to need to build a much bigger and better organized autistic community (subculture) before that can happen.


Aargh...! I'm very sorry to hear this!


Unfortunately, given the current under-development of the autistic community, you are likely to encounter reactions like the above even from all-too-many autistic women. (A better-developed autistic community would, I hope, be able to do more to ensure the safety of autistic women within a predominantly male autistic community. Hopefully this would result in the women being less likely to feel threatened by a man voicing his frustrations.)


There does exist an autistic rights movement, but it has a long way to go. We need to build our community before we can have an effective political movement.

See my Longterm visions for the autistic community.

Every new movement of marginalized people has to struggle to be taken seriously by other, already-existing such movements. The feminist movement, for example, faced a similar uphill battle back in the 1960's and for a while afterward.

I've been intermittently involved in the feminist and LGBT rights movements (I'm bi) starting in the late 1970's, long before the LGBT rights movement became respectable.

I explained the situation with my ex mostly to provide background information. The points in this thread are more about how everyone else treated me, and feminists in particular.

What you said about job interviews and networking?
One thousand percent correct.

Based on what I've read about the history of the feminist movement, and based on my experiences with feminist groups in the late 1970's and early 1980's, I think you're over-generalizing about second-wave feminism. The "men are the enemy" idea was always rejected by moderate groups like the National Organization for Women (NOW). Feminists who believed that "men are the enemy" were known as "radical feminists," a distinct subset.

In the late 1960's and early 1970's, the feminist movement was inspired. to a large degree. by the black civil rights movement, and the various different branches of the feminist movement took their inspiration from different parts of the black community. NOW was founded as an "NAACP for women," whereas the radical feminists (and especially the lesbian separatists) modeled themselves on black nationalists.

As I see it, all of the various "waves" of feminism have encompassed a spectrum of views.

I do not comprehend any support group removing a member for expressing a past history of sexual abuse.
I thought that protected disclosure and compassion and encouragement to heal and go forward was the reason for these groups‘ existence.