goldfish21 wrote:
magz wrote:
Darn. Slowed down again. Physically.
If only I knew what hard work I'm unconciously doing that makes me so exhausted :/
My best guess is a form of autistic masking. It's not so much that you're putting your mental energy into the classical form of masking in terms of doing your best to play the part like an actor on a stage in a particular social situation where you consciously and logically know what's expected of you, so you do all the things you can to try to fit the neurotypical expectation of behaviours in that particular social setting despite them not coming naturally/intuitively to you.. not exactly that, but somewhat comparable in the sense that all of these various stressors coming at you from every direction - family, covid related worries, other external things.. these aren't exactly a dinner party where you know what behaviours are expected of you so you put your mental processing power to work, BUT, all of these various stressors are driving you absolutely NUTS yet you're still self aware of the fact that your family and people around you have an expectation that you not completely lose your mind and freak out, so your brain is in "masking overdrive," processing at an overclocked rate, generating a whole lot of heat, and completely wearing you out while you put on a happy face and do your best to Appear to be handling the situation well.
That's my guess. Masking - of sorts - for the social interaction benefit of your family dynamics & people in your life vs. those you're mingling with over cocktails.
Thanks.
Yes, I think you're right - I'm doing various things to keep the family from getting nuts.
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That's not a system easy to manage in a two-bedroom flat, especially with the husband working remotely and with children often skipping school for quarantines.
Normally, I would have a few hours alone every day. Not now.
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