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10 Feb 2021, 9:48 am

magz, I'm sorry you are going through this. I have no advice but wanted to send my best wishes for you and the family.


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10 Feb 2021, 9:54 am

I hope you can relax and the shutdown eases so you can get back to your normal self without shutting down.



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10 Feb 2021, 12:21 pm

I send hugs to the Very Intelligent {{{{{{MAGZ}}}}}}}



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13 Feb 2021, 4:25 am

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13 Feb 2021, 4:32 am

damn. these are cursed times. the only way one can cope is to not be involved in it, but having family members means one is involved no matter what. if [at all possible] it means shutting off from the outside world and doing something meditative for as long as one has time available then that may well be the way to go.



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13 Feb 2021, 4:51 am

They're coming back. Hopefully, my inlaws haven't been infected.
So, back to the original situation, just more stress.


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13 Feb 2021, 6:20 am

Is it easy to get tested where you are?

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13 Feb 2021, 10:21 am

Wishing you peace, rest, and calm, magz.

Take all the time you need, and pamper yourself in every way possible.


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16 Feb 2021, 6:30 am

Thanks.
Apparently, my mind has started recovering now - but please, try to avoid making my moderator duties harder ;)

A side note: I just learned that my daughter is on official quarantine... because she had a scheduled GP appointment and the clinic phoned us that they have to cancel the visit.
Lol - if it wasn't for the appointment, I would have no idea because no official contacted us - other than the schoolmaster "recommended" (but not ordered) children who had contact with the infected kid "not to go to school until Friday" :mrgreen:

Mess as usual. Don't pay attention. Carry on.


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19 Feb 2021, 11:49 am

Darn. Slowed down again. Physically.
If only I knew what hard work I'm unconciously doing that makes me so exhausted :/


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19 Feb 2021, 12:19 pm

Did any of your direct family tested positive?



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19 Feb 2021, 12:22 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Did any of your direct family tested positive?

You mean people I live with? No.
The closed relative to test positive is my husband's sister who lives a few blocks from us. She's already recovered.


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19 Feb 2021, 1:18 pm

magz wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Did any of your direct family tested positive?

You mean people I live with? No.
The closed relative to test positive is my husband's sister who lives a few blocks from us. She's already recovered.

I am very happy to hear this news. Wishing for your safety to be secured. :heart:



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21 Feb 2021, 2:54 pm

magz wrote:
Darn. Slowed down again. Physically.
If only I knew what hard work I'm unconciously doing that makes me so exhausted :/


My best guess is a form of autistic masking. It's not so much that you're putting your mental energy into the classical form of masking in terms of doing your best to play the part like an actor on a stage in a particular social situation where you consciously and logically know what's expected of you, so you do all the things you can to try to fit the neurotypical expectation of behaviours in that particular social setting despite them not coming naturally/intuitively to you.. not exactly that, but somewhat comparable in the sense that all of these various stressors coming at you from every direction - family, covid related worries, other external things.. these aren't exactly a dinner party where you know what behaviours are expected of you so you put your mental processing power to work, BUT, all of these various stressors are driving you absolutely NUTS yet you're still self aware of the fact that your family and people around you have an expectation that you not completely lose your mind and freak out, so your brain is in "masking overdrive," processing at an overclocked rate, generating a whole lot of heat, and completely wearing you out while you put on a happy face and do your best to Appear to be handling the situation well.

That's my guess. Masking - of sorts - for the social interaction benefit of your family dynamics & people in your life vs. those you're mingling with over cocktails.


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21 Feb 2021, 3:14 pm

goldfish21 wrote:
magz wrote:
Darn. Slowed down again. Physically.
If only I knew what hard work I'm unconciously doing that makes me so exhausted :/


My best guess is a form of autistic masking. It's not so much that you're putting your mental energy into the classical form of masking in terms of doing your best to play the part like an actor on a stage in a particular social situation where you consciously and logically know what's expected of you, so you do all the things you can to try to fit the neurotypical expectation of behaviours in that particular social setting despite them not coming naturally/intuitively to you.. not exactly that, but somewhat comparable in the sense that all of these various stressors coming at you from every direction - family, covid related worries, other external things.. these aren't exactly a dinner party where you know what behaviours are expected of you so you put your mental processing power to work, BUT, all of these various stressors are driving you absolutely NUTS yet you're still self aware of the fact that your family and people around you have an expectation that you not completely lose your mind and freak out, so your brain is in "masking overdrive," processing at an overclocked rate, generating a whole lot of heat, and completely wearing you out while you put on a happy face and do your best to Appear to be handling the situation well.

That's my guess. Masking - of sorts - for the social interaction benefit of your family dynamics & people in your life vs. those you're mingling with over cocktails.

Thanks.
Yes, I think you're right - I'm doing various things to keep the family from getting nuts.
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That's not a system easy to manage in a two-bedroom flat, especially with the husband working remotely and with children often skipping school for quarantines.
Normally, I would have a few hours alone every day. Not now.


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