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08 Feb 2021, 5:56 am

 ! magz wrote:
I remind everyone that sweeping attacks are forbidden on WP - and things said about women in this thread do constitute a sweeping attack.
It would be okay to talk about your experiences - no matter how painful - with particular women, or even with vast majority of women in certain situations (like bars or dating sites).
However, extrapolating these experiences to all women is offensive.
Please, stay within the rules against sweeping attacks.


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08 Feb 2021, 5:57 am

Sorry



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08 Feb 2021, 6:01 am

I think we do get more discerning as we mature.
It's true, women may be biologically programmed to go for men who seem like survivors.
But as we get older and smarter we start to recognise the superior value of moral strength and sensitivity over physical strength and aggression.



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08 Feb 2021, 6:05 am

Screw “biology,” I say!

Women are not lab rats.



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08 Feb 2021, 6:16 am

No one can blame you for being bitter after those things that were done to you.
Bad people hurt you, and society failed to protect you.

But please try not to direct that bitterness towards all women.

The people who victimized you were probably men anyway. Dont scapegoat the female half of the human race.



I hope that you're getting counsuling for this truama.



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08 Feb 2021, 6:27 am

I can understand how it might seem as if the odds are stacked against you.
It doesn't help having all those reality TV shows full of scantily-clad contestants with fake tans and gym-bodies, as if that represents some kind of ideal.
Just know that many of us are not attracted to those fakers, they make me feel :eew:



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08 Feb 2021, 6:31 am

I like “average” women much more than I like models.



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08 Feb 2021, 6:34 am

To the OP: I'm sorry if I souned harsh. I was more concerned about the direction where the conversation was going, not with your original post.
Childhood trauma is hard to heal because when you're a child, you're only learning what is normal and what is not - so if something severily wrong happens when you're a child, your brain tries its best to accept it as "normal", even at the cost of the rest of reality.
I hope you find the courage and heal. I really do :heart:


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09 Feb 2021, 9:55 am

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I was abused sexually many times by many people growing up. I was raped in my home and in my elementary school.

I find it funny how none of the pedophiles who preyed upon me ever said to me "I like you, but as a friend", "You're really sweet, but there's just no chemistry", or any of the of the other clichés I've been told by every woman I've ever had feelings for.

If only pedophiles could have found me as repulsing and unattractive then as women do now!

But when I think about it, it makes perfect sense. We all know that women are attracted to strong men, while predators target the weak. Right?


Dude! you need to be careful how you talk about your experiences as other members might have also experienced sexual abuse may be triggered at the casual way you describe what happened to you. I realise this happened to you and you are the one to "own it" and it's none of my business how you choose to handle your life.


It was not my intention to trigger anyone. How would you suggest I discuss my own trauma?



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09 Feb 2021, 9:59 am

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Because there isn't a lot of them

Ah well, as long as you know there are some of us out there :thumleft:


In my experience, such women are always taken. I mean, why would someone who is kind are caring and who does not require standards that are difficult for most men to achieve remain single?



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09 Feb 2021, 10:33 am

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It was not my intention to trigger anyone. How would you suggest I discuss my own trauma?

This is your topic in The Haven and you are free to discuss it in any way you prefer (within the general rules, of course).


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09 Feb 2021, 10:47 am

I'm sorry about my previous post in this thread.  I forgot to check that it was in The Haven.

Thank you, Magz, for deleting it.



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09 Feb 2021, 3:31 pm

dorkseid wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
I was abused sexually many times by many people growing up. I was raped in my home and in my elementary school.

I find it funny how none of the pedophiles who preyed upon me ever said to me "I like you, but as a friend", "You're really sweet, but there's just no chemistry", or any of the of the other clichés I've been told by every woman I've ever had feelings for.

If only pedophiles could have found me as repulsing and unattractive then as women do now!

But when I think about it, it makes perfect sense. We all know that women are attracted to strong men, while predators target the weak. Right?


Dude! you need to be careful how you talk about your experiences as other members might have also experienced sexual abuse may be triggered at the casual way you describe what happened to you. I realise this happened to you and you are the one to "own it" and it's none of my business how you choose to handle your life.


It was not my intention to trigger anyone. How would you suggest I discuss my own trauma?


Yes I also forgot this was the "haven" and this is your thread. My only concern was to not conflate your experience with women not dating you.



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09 Feb 2021, 5:54 pm

cyberdad wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
I was abused sexually many times by many people growing up. I was raped in my home and in my elementary school.

I find it funny how none of the pedophiles who preyed upon me ever said to me "I like you, but as a friend", "You're really sweet, but there's just no chemistry", or any of the of the other clichés I've been told by every woman I've ever had feelings for.

If only pedophiles could have found me as repulsing and unattractive then as women do now!

But when I think about it, it makes perfect sense. We all know that women are attracted to strong men, while predators target the weak. Right?


Dude! you need to be careful how you talk about your experiences as other members might have also experienced sexual abuse may be triggered at the casual way you describe what happened to you. I realise this happened to you and you are the one to "own it" and it's none of my business how you choose to handle your life.


It was not my intention to trigger anyone. How would you suggest I discuss my own trauma?


Yes I also forgot this was the "haven" and this is your thread. My only concern was to not conflate your experience with women not dating you.


Well, my point is why were pedophiles drawn to me but women never are.



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09 Feb 2021, 8:13 pm

The simplest answer is that the perpatrators who preyed on you were men. Women aren't as compulsive/desperate.



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10 Feb 2021, 12:22 am

cyberdad wrote:
The simplest answer is that the perbpatrators who preyed on you were men. Women aren't as compulsive/desperate.

They weren't men. They were pedophiles.


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