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CollegeGirlAnon
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15 Feb 2021, 10:41 pm

I am doing a lot better today.....I still have a lot of anger about my first sexual experiences being abusive.

Like...I don’t even know what to say bc I went on r/aspergers during a emotional flashback and then I ranted and everyone yelled at me.

Basically bc I said what I said here, a bit more emotionally unstably.

It was about me being hesitant to date another ASD guy bc my rapist and sexual assaulter both had it.

And now that I am thinking I maybe have more sociopathic traits maybe no one would actually care about me being raped by them.

It’s like, I am a good person, I take care of my Dog as best I can, and I try and help others if I can. But I maybe just at least have some sociopathic traits.


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15 Feb 2021, 10:41 pm

Like sometimes I feel like I am a bad person and am going to get kicked off of here for being the way I am!


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15 Feb 2021, 10:47 pm

Also, what if I want a guy to be gentle and asks where he touches before he touches?

It seems not many guys care.


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15 Feb 2021, 10:52 pm

Maybe I should just be ok with being treated like garbage...


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15 Feb 2021, 11:43 pm

CollegeGirlAnon wrote:
Maybe I should just be ok with being treated like garbage...

Are you insinuating that garbage has no feelings...?



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16 Feb 2021, 12:11 am

A guy should ask before he touches a woman in an intimate place.



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16 Feb 2021, 12:12 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
A guy should ask before he touches a woman in an intimate place.

Agreed.



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16 Feb 2021, 4:28 pm

CollegeGirlAnon wrote:
I am doing a lot better today.....I still have a lot of anger about my first sexual experiences being abusive.

Like...I don’t even know what to say bc I went on r/aspergers during a emotional flashback and then I ranted and everyone yelled at me.

Basically bc I said what I said here, a bit more emotionally unstably.

It was about me being hesitant to date another ASD guy bc my rapist and sexual assaulter both had it.

And now that I am thinking I maybe have more sociopathic traits maybe no one would actually care about me being raped by them.

It’s like, I am a good person, I take care of my Dog as best I can, and I try and help others if I can. But I maybe just at least have some sociopathic traits.


Before the assaults or now?

You come across as having enormous anger, but that is to be expected after what you went through.



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16 Feb 2021, 4:29 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
A guy should ask before he touches a woman in an intimate place.


Ya think? 8O



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16 Feb 2021, 7:09 pm

Pepe wrote:
CollegeGirlAnon wrote:
I am doing a lot better today.....I still have a lot of anger about my first sexual experiences being abusive.

Like...I don’t even know what to say bc I went on r/aspergers during a emotional flashback and then I ranted and everyone yelled at me.

Basically bc I said what I said here, a bit more emotionally unstably.

It was about me being hesitant to date another ASD guy bc my rapist and sexual assaulter both had it.

And now that I am thinking I maybe have more sociopathic traits maybe no one would actually care about me being raped by them.

It’s like, I am a good person, I take care of my Dog as best I can, and I try and help others if I can. But I maybe just at least have some sociopathic traits.


Before the assaults or now?

You come across as having enormous anger, but that is to be expected after what you went through.


I mean...I went to school with a lot of people with ASD, so I initially did only want to date aspies to an extent. After the assaults I went back and forth.

Now, I will date a person with almost any mental disorder (baring psychopathy, and most sociopaths because most can’t control their impulses) if they’re able to recognize their behaviors can impact people they are close to.

I do have anger. Everyone does. My childhood was traumatic so that is normal IMO.

It’s how you deal with it to me that matters.


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16 Feb 2021, 7:12 pm

And anyone should ask before touching someone OR getting in someone’s personal space.

OR there should be a prearranged agreement.


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19 Feb 2021, 3:12 pm

CollegeGirlAnon wrote:
And anyone should ask before touching someone OR getting in someone’s personal space.

OR there should be a prearranged agreement.


It is simpler being single.