Email to my father and his response - Reasonable?

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It depends on how you usually speak to your father.
Would it be exactly like a conversation you'd have in person, or would you normally be more formal?
Maybe your father misread it?
Pissing down translated to pissed?
Or maybe he misjudged the tone?

It doesn't appear to indicate drunkeness, but sometimes if you read something expecting things to be a certain way, you imagine it with that tone in your head.

I'm sorry this has happened.
It would make me confused too.

Hi Max

Long story of lost main email address andl lost passwords.... I expect Cornflake would be able to restore it of I asked as my mod tools and post count have vanished! Can't even send a PM as the page seems to be buggy.

I guess I'll just leave it for now and not send him any more emails. If he still wants to talk to me then fine.

He's 82 so I don't really want to cause him any undue stress.

In addition, to take the piss can also commonly mean to take liberties. As in "You can have a bite of my Twix, just don't take the piss, alright?"

nah your not in the wrong and shouldn't be expected to have this much social scrutiny

As a parent, I would be more loving.

I think I side with your Dad. He expects you to be politer and less crude.

Even though I don't think you did anything wrong, maybe you could apologize to smooth things over, maybe by saying you're sorry that your email was upsetting or offensive to him, even though you didn't intend it to be. Maybe not by email, but on the phone?

Are you ok Rossall

It sounds like this has taken a bit of a toll on you

No Aussies also say pissing = rain too. We have a lot English people here (we call them poms).

Don't really know your dad but if he's sensitive to crude language, suggest toning your language down a bit.

I reread the email, and to me it didn't seem the least bit crude, but Dad is probably aware of son's alcohol use and may have rightly or wrongly believed him to be pissed at the time he wrote it. That's the most speculation I will attempt. OP will probably just have to power through it. Sorry not a happy situation.

Yeah possible that too...but alcohol loosens inhibitions and makes people say "abrasive" things. I know I couldn't say "pissing" in front of my parents or in a SMS.

Sweet Pea hugs

Thanks CR. He knows I drink heavily but I swear I wasn't drunk when I wrote that email. It's not the language I grew up with but it's difficult when you live in a block of council flats where every other word people say is f**k or c**t and then you've got to walk on eggshells with your relatives.

You do know that you can be yourself right? just because other people in your council flats are crude does not mean you have to copy them. Also you seem intelligent enough to code-switch. If you want to talk like a "home-boy" in front of your homies, you should be capable of speaking to family/friends in a respectful manner.

I am taught this to my daughter who occasionally dropped the f-bomb in school and over time she worked out not to use this type of language in front of family.