I Hate Love

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I dont really know what my issue is, do i want a gf or not? am i even capable of lovemaking? what about love itself? sometimes i feel as if i dont know *how* to love. when i say " i love you" to a family member, i am not entirely sure what i am saying. i have deep respect and honor but what is the AS textbook definition of love?

As long as you have sex organs then I believe you should be capable of love making..
Why should you not be?
I have AS, and if anything I would consider my definition of love stronger than most peoples, not weaker. What you want is up to you, just give yourself more time to think about it I guess.

i didnt mean i was not capable, i just wouldnt know how to go about it

I know how you feel, I experience the same sort of thing. It makes me reluctant to get into relationships even when they are presented to me, which is a very rare thing itself. I'd be somewhat inclined to blame it on a bad experience in a past relationship though.

My first (and only) boyfriend was a complete FREAK (he purposefully went out of his way to annoy everyone around him and he hates everyone in the world except for his friend from 5th grade) and it really put me off ever trying a relationship again. Up until that point, I had been ready to jump at the chance to go out with anyone (hence agreeing to go out with someone whom I knew to be a freak). We went out for a while, then two days after I finally managed to break up with him, one of the nicest guys I've ever known, who had a lot in common with me, asked me out. I turned him down though, and three guys since then. I'm terrified of getting into another relationship because I'm afraid that I don't have the ability to commit to someone like they deserve, because when I decided to go out with Mr Freak I figured that "love" or feelings of attraction would manifest themselves, but they didn't, and it makes me afraid they'll never manifest themselves.

Until fairly recently, I was a firm believer that falling in love with someone without knowing them intimately for years was a bunch of crap, and that love itself may even be a big hoax. Unfortunately I've developed a habit of feeling attraction towards guys I can't have. I don't know if I would actually keep those feelings of attraction if it were possible to "get" those guys (I think it may be a case of simply wanting what you can't have). Once again, it makes me afraid to do anything. I even ended up setting my (now ex)best friend up with a guy that I thought I liked. Unfortunately, I've gradually fallen head over heels for him . And they've turned out to be one of the most lovely couple, they're perfect for each other in every way. Now doesn't that just suck?

How to go about having sex? Easy, just watch a porno, you can learn a lot from those things.

lol!

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uhh-huhh, yep i'll take it under advisement
being a virgin though watching a video could hardly make up for real experience and know how. i think objectively, where am i now, where do i need to go, how do i get there, what speps must i take to get there how will i know im there... see WAY too many variables

Ah.. So your part of the Kool Kids Klub now eh?

Almost everytime i try to do something to get a gf, it always ends with a shaddered heart... there aint much left....

Love can be a great thing, but to me since I am excluded, it is rather vexing and depressing.

I am simply making a statement with my avatar. back in the day White Americans had their own little club/clique, it got shut down because of some extremists. nowadays, we have the NAACP, an outdated organization run by al sharpton. if African Americans can have their own little clique, then White Americans should also have their own. Kool Kids Klub sounds about right