I'm so stressed! I'm dying to do this, but how do I do it?

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Well, I have one gun and it only shoots hearts Lol I should really stop trying to be funny, I just suck that bad.
Anyway, I dont have any weapon at the moment, but I admit I would like to. I would never hurt you! I just hope youll actually trust me one day, cause I like you a lot.

The weirdness of this thread just jumped up by an order of magnitude.



username88, sounds like you don't need a gun, just a pair of furry handcuffs. And Ana's permission, of course.



Good fortune,

- Crazy Uncle Icky

Ick, will you be the best man? Oh, and the godfather?

Speaking traditionally, the groom chooses the best man.

In the event that you end up having any children (and I know you've spoken often about wanting to), I would be open to the notion of being the godfather; you should select such a person carefully though; speak to me about it again in the future, when there is someone for me to be godfather to.

Good fortune,

- Godfather Icarus

You would definetly be the first person Id go to for that Icarus.
Not to mention I dont really know anyone else anyway lol, but still Id ask you to be the best man.

LOL! So who will be the flower girl(s), the bridesmades and the ringbearer?

People meet up with and wind up sharing apartments and houses all the time.
Especially in college towns.
I've known women who have shared places with women, men (straight and gay), and any pets that came along.

The differences I see between your situation and the women I spoke of are these...

They were attending college and wound up sharing with other college students, maybe ones who took the same classes with them.
So in that way, those folks were very much alike and maybe less a stranger than someone who was not a student.

You are an Aspie and a common thread I see here is that Aspies have a history of being taken advantage of. Even my friend has mentioned how she has felt taken advantage of by people because of her AS.

The vast majority of folks I've shared places with, or who I know shared places with strangers, were doing so primarily for the help in rent.
There was very little or sometimes no expectation that any of them(us) were going to be friends and associate together other than bill and rent paying time.

You seem to be looking for something other than a fellow renter. You seem to want to be in the company of people who you feel can relate to you and understand you.

Be sure of what you are wanting out of this sharing arrangement, be clear to the others what you are looking for and NOT looking for.
Screen all potential co-renters in person. It is common to get a reference (someone you can talk to who can give you their personal opinion on this person's ability to be someone you can depend on to make the rent, keep up their share of the household duties, etc.)
Some people go as far as doing credit checks and rental history checks on their potential co-renters.

Make sure the number of folks you plan on sharing with, is acceptable to the landlord.

Analyze this carefully, and if you are still desiring to follow through, then go ahead, be cautious and never afraid to back out if you do not feel safe.

Wish I could give you better advice... in fewer words...

Wow, in that case, I would be honoured. Though, I'll have to warn you, I can't handle formal wear very well because of sensory issues.

Please, do keep me posted as to the plans.

Good fortune,

- Icarus the Best Man

Dude, you can show up in your pjs, wouldnt make a difference to me.

Wsmac:


Now we're actually now thinking of getting a houseboat together! I dunno yet tho; MADDuck doesn't like boats but maybe he'll love them now!


Username88 and MADDuck know what I want and don't want... they won't rush in until we get to know we want to, unless they're sick f***s afterall.


The credit check thing isn't an issue (I don't think), but I should do that to be sure! How do you do a credit check?


The reference thing? That might be kind of hard. Well, I could ask MADDuck's mother and maybe his old friend... Username88, what 2 or 3 people would you use as your references?


PS: Thanks so much for the credit check and reference ideas; I didn't think of those!

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My son Wolf could be the ringbearer, if you don't mind someone who is autistic.

Good fortune,

- Icarus Spawns Chaos

Autistic is the BEST!


Is Wolf your son's actual name on his birth certificate? What are your other kids' names?

I wish I had a name that cool.
Also I would like it to be a forest theme (deep in some woods maybe?), with the song "Wisdom Opens the Gates for the King" by Ancestors Blood playing instead of the traditional stuff.

Ana,

Gosh, I wasn't trying to say you really should do that stuff... was I? I'll have to read my post over again.

The background, reference and credit checks are things some folks do when sharing a place with people they do not know.

Some folks do them because they believe it screens out the potential problems.
Some folks don't do them because of how difficult it is to know whether the information you are getting is correct or not, unless you actually check their official credit history.

Calling previous landlords is one way to check on a co-renter, but then you don't know what kind of person they are, or if they are just pissed off at the former renter and will say anything to make them look bad.

I have no personal experience in this.
I rented twice with the same sister, rented with my brother several times, lived on my own a lot, and with a couple of girlfriends (one of which later became my wife).

I was hoping someone who has done this sort of thing would speak up here.
Perhaps there aren't any in this community?

Just want you to be careful when you head out into the big 'ol world there.
I have a 14y.o. daughter, so I'm especially anxious when I hear of girls heading out on their own without a real good support system back home... a place to go back to, help with certain needs if necessary, someone to just talk with, etc.

You have my best wishes for success though!