slightly serious relationship problems

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Just going to say if you need to talk...pm me.

Went through something a little similar myself... Hurt like he$$.

That's really sad. You deserve better! Do you really have to leave Super Happy Fun Land?? Are you sure there's no one you can stay with besides your parents?

I moved to TX with a guy who turned out to be too unstable mentally for me to stay with. I was really scared because I didn't know anyone here except his friends. But his friends ended up being really supportive to me because they saw what was going on. One offered me a place to stay. Then he became my boyfriend, and we still live together. Now I just wish I had followed my instincts and called him sooner, as soon as I knew I needed to get away.

I hope things work out somehow! It's not fair that you have to suffer when he created this situation.

he accuses me ofcreating the situatuon..when i broke up with him because f this kind of stuff in the first place...

As an aside: It's not a bad thing to be emotionally attached to others and worry for their safety, even people who you've been romantically attached to; "normal" people do this, and it is a nice and caring thing. ("Controlling" others is never a good thing.)

I kinda feel like ending it.
I spoke ti him recently..he hung up on me..won't answer his phone...he no longer cares about me....I don't know what ti do

Choices suck.

I'm sure he cares for you; if he's been going out of sight to pursue a romance whilst participating in one with you [without your consent], he doesn't deserve your care or romance, that’s my opinion anyway.

Trust is one of those defining things I've found.

yeah..i agree...

My whole life revolved around him...but I can't continue with it....it's gone daddy gone..the love has gone away

I was feeling very self-destructive a little while ago...but I spoke to a friend of mine who the (explitive) used to date...and I feel a little more in-control of my emotions....

It really is over...

sheer evidence of the transient nature of love....

no more poopy and flakey

I just feel so stupid....

well..i am not gonna be on WP so much anymore....seeing as I have to now uproot my whole life.

I'm anything but an expert: but it sounds like he could be experiencing a pretty severe midlife crisis; which has obviously been taking a very heavy toll on you.

The 19-year-old may make him feel younger; but whenever you two are actually apart: he's shaken up by the sudden awareness of just how important you really are to him, so he comes back.

But then he cycles through it all over again; which has been very rough on you, and this can only serve as a source of never-ending frustration for you.

You might be done with him, but he might never feel done with you, and if you leave him: he might just come crawling back, and the whole thing could start all over again.

Maybe it could just work itself out in time; but this is all just my theory as an outside observer.

In any event: whether this is something he can help or not, it is by no means your fault in any way.

it is made out to be my fault because I left him last year.....

he jumped through hoops to get me back...and threatens to do so again..i sorta doubt it though.....

now he threatens to dump all of Super happy Fun land in my lap.

If you can handle Super Happy Fun land take it...sometimes we can cope with more than we think we can...and something to work for can pull you through this. Don't underestimate yourself.

Hold your head up...you do NOT take the blame for this!! !

Point blank...he had a CHOICE...to talk to you, to make it work, to invest into the relationship he said he cared so much about...instead he CHOOSE not to. Let him live with his CHOICE...believe me, in the end that is sometimes the very BEST revenge.

we have been trying to talk things through it but it just gets worse and worse.
He thinks that having sex with other people is trivial..but he would rather sacrifice me than give up that option...all the while telling me tht his life would fall apart if I left him...

He is so manipulative. I just don't understand.

I feel slightly suicidal...and very very alone. It is gonna be very hard leaving this place..I have sooo much stuff here....
Flakey was my only friend.
My whole life revolved around him.

I just don't know what to do.

When I talk about seeing other people as retaliation...i guess....he just threatens to see more people too....as it stands we are talking about just staying friends and sleeping in separate rooms.

I am so emotionally screwed up right now.

Take a deep breath and give yourself some time to think. Sometimes talking at this stage does more harm than good, and just makes things uglier...the damage is already done.

Right now it's like a dam* train ride and you just want to get off already. It will be okay...no not now, maybe not soon...but trust me it will.

Get the self-destructive thoughts out of your head...nothing is worth that, nothing...and I think deep down you know that.

self destructive thoughts are never very far away.
I go out..I wander through aggregate crownds of people who I have nothing in common with ...that is all there is out there in the world....a void of loneliness that goes on forever...

Meanwhile my ex-boyfriend of almost 5 years says he has still yet another girl on his que...

I don't know what I was doing wrong..I was trying to be so good....