Misreading people who appear as 'friends'

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I have had times when I felt things had gone splendidly in a new friend setting. Then comes the phone call. The one I make, just to let the person know that I am thinking about them, and maybe planning to ask them on some outing. They don't call back. I wait two, three days, then leave another message. No answer. Alas! What rudeness is this? Now I'm mad. Well, I used to get mad. Now, I just chalk it up to more missed signals, and carry on. It's their loss, actually.

I'm responding to this really late, but I think this is something that's really hard for us Aspies. We usually have a hard time picking up on normal social stuff, and probably can't read people super well. I've basically given up on the idea of having friends because I don't know how to tell if someone wants to be, or really is a friend, and I hate being betrayed (it just hurts so much). (On top of that, I don't know how you go about getting friends to begin with.)

I might have expectations that are too high for friendship too. To me I kind of want someone that's going to be there for sure, and most people aren't, and I don't know how to tell.

hmm, i feel for you.

at the moment i'm still depressed because there is this person i like but he's not responding at all. meh, it seems that i like anyone who pays abit of honest attention to me but i guess all this is temporary, and all you gotta think is this: it's just another stage i have to go through again

but i'm telling ya, it's very hard to get over it. at least for me but you just gotta be patient, even though it's affecting everything you do. as for me, i'm underperforming at college and my tutors are trying to talk me out but my instincts tell me to refuse to tell them anything @_@ besides, why are colleges designed to boss you around? i can do whatever i like thank you very much, and i'll get my As too. Pfft.

I'm glad to have seen this post as, often this tends to be my main problem in the realm of friendships. As is often the case with myself, I too often tend to think someone is my friend since their being sincere & kind not being able to read the lines and maybe not noticing when someone is actually being misleading and malevolent at best I can describe.. I wished I was better at elaborating upon this issue but, I'm not however I'm glad that I'm not the only autistic in such a conundrum..

Professor X

I haven't had this problem, but I can see why other people like us have!