I'm in major shock

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Without trying to sound too negative or insulting (though invariably i will i'm sure) you've just discovered a truth I only discovered myself a few years back, and that is that most people are exceedingly shallow, two faced liars.

Reading your words was a weird moment for me because I could have written those exact same sentences a few years ago. I've always been the nice guy who tries to get along with everyone and never has bad intentions and then i get crapped on, so I understand.
I'll try to write some things i've found out below but knowing me it'll possibly be a hard read as i'm absolute crap at consoling/comforting people even when i try my best.

If you're anything like a lot of Aspie's (including myself) then you're likely incredibly naive as you're probably going to realise when you get the replies i'm expecting you'll get in this thread.
The world can be a crappy place at times due to the people we share it with, but never give up hope as there are still plenty of people who make this world a wonderful place.


Many NT's are as i described above due to well hidden feelings of insecurity. It's the same wherever you go, if you're different in some way people make fun of you as it distracts attention away from their own inadequacies.
What I found out is that there are very few people I can fully trust, but those that I can are absolutely worth the hassle of having to deal with the rest of the human race.
I found out exactly who my friends were when I told every single one of them to their faces exactly what I thought of them and why (possibly not recommended the way I did it as everyone heard everything about everyone else being as we were all in one room at the time).

Anyway, on a happier note, once you get used to the idea that most people are as i described you can deal with the problems this causes. Through observation and through trial and error you can learn who to confide in, who not to trust etc. Your big dilemma may come when you have to decide whether to never interact with most people or to try your best with most people and take everything (and i do mean everything) they say with a big pinch of salt. Since you can't hide from life my advice is to make the best of a bad situation.

In my case, I managed to find a small selection of people that are true friends, and they are there for me whenever I need them. They forgive me my mistakes, my very common foot in mouth moments and they accept me for who I am.

I am sure there are people like that out there for you, you possibly already know them.