"20 things not to say to me when I'm upset"-- add

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"You see that person over there who is blind/in a wheelchair/mentally handicapped? They're a lot worse off than you, so stop whining and appreciate what you've got!"
I HATE that!

Don't forget: "This will hurt me more than it will hurt you."

<said by the masochist who may be wielding the syringe>

Yikes!

"I'm sorry you're getting bad grades. You're just going to have to set your [college] sights a little lower, but you'll live."(dad)

"Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration."(dad)

"It's not all about you."(dad, sometimes mom)

"I'll be really proud of you if you get good grades."(dad) Why is your being proud of me in the future tense? Are you trying to make me feel like I have to earn your love?

"I got bad grades in High School. That's why my life sucks. If you get bad grades your life will SUCK as bad as MINE. I could have really DONE SOMETHING. I screwed up, and you're on the verge. My life SUCKS. That's why I want you to go to a GOOD SCHOOL, so your life will be worth something."(dad-quoted verbatim-my dad talks like a teenager sometimes)

"Self-worth comes from winning and achieving. Achieve and you'll feel better about yourself, and I'll feel better about you."(dad)

"This is why you don't have friends"(Grandma)

"You can cure your OCD with your mind. I did."(dad, who still has to do everything in even numbers)

"Is this panic attack helping you get into COLLEGE?"(dad)

"You'd better learn how to get along, because High School never ends. College is like High School. Work is like High School. Nursing homes are like High School."(dad)

"Learn to accept things you can't control."(dad)

"College. College college college, college. University college college SAT college college. College GPA college extracurricular activities college. College applications college Ivy league college college. Major college college. College career opportunities college college college, college college, college. Scholarship! You suck
college college college. College."(dad)

~"Breathe."

Wait, it gets worse. Here's my mom's verson:

~*takes a deep breath in*

Gee, thanks, didn't know that for one thing, you know exactly how to calm my body down, and for another, I apparently don't know how to breathe now. Just made me angrier, and seeing as how I was already screeching and roaring at the same time...

~"I have a feeling that if you really were happy, you wouldn't be writing these extremely dark songs."

A bit different because I was telling someone how much happier I've gotten, and then I showed them my songs, which are, in fact, quite dark. Are you seriously telling me that because I write in a certain style that I'm not happy?

Now a longer one.

I had just started middle school, and this demonic counselor decided for whatever reason - I can't remember - to curse at me mildly. I started crying because back then I couldn't take it. Here it comes:

~"Stop crying! Middle schoolers don't cry, and middle scoolers say that word!"

...Seriously? Being enrolled in middle school means that you're not allowed to cry and that you have to curse? ...Well, put me in elementary, I still cry and I haven't cursed more than once in my life.

More from the demonic counselor.

I was, again, a middle school newbie, and she had the nerve to tell me that because I liked to draw that I couldn't do math. I told her to let me prove I could and she gives me a complex algebraic equation. I asked what the dot (multiplication) meant, and she pulled it away saying something like:

~"See what I mean?"

...Am I supposed to understand algebra when just starting sixth grade? Gee, ma'am, I never knowed dat.

The list goes on about the counselor, but I'm not going to bore you all. She's evil, I'm not seeing her any more, all is nice and fluffy. The end.

Don't ignore me! I need attention when I'm upset and feel even more unwanted when left to my own devices!

That is one EVIL guidence counsellor!! ! I have NEVER sworn, and I freak out too if anybody says stuff like that too!

Guidance counselors can be sort of eccentric. The guidance counselor at the high school I went to in grade 11 was in the paper for drinking with students on the trip to Europe (he'd been taking kids to Europe for 22 years or so, so most parentrs trusted him, but two of them I think made it into a national scandal.


Cheerlessleader, I get the "You don't know how good you have it" all the time. Maybe I'm ignorant of some good things I have, but only I know what horrible s**t is going in in my head, and if they could see into my head they'd never tell me that again.

i get it too. it is a pain.

i hate when people actually say things like
"they are a lot worse off then you"

it is just a way to minimise a problem that you have by laying the guilt trip on. so not helpful.

heres something to add
"you need to lose weight your stomach sticks out to far you look pregnant..........."
(my mum has said this to me not while i was upset about something though, it just made me upset)

I hate when people just undermine the problem to calm me down. It freaks me out more because I think nobody understands me!! !

I REALLY hate it when people say that they understand, because it is really quite rare that they do
and then the "I could do that, so why can't you"-mum
and similar to above "I never did that"-mum trying to say I should be more like her when for 1, I don't want to and 2. the circumstances are completely different! you can't judge based on what has occured in the past to you


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"Ask God for forgiveness for your sins."


Okay, but how about the sins of the people that made me depresed??? What a way to make me feel better; remind me that I'm a sinner and perhaps deserve to feel depressed.


"Don't be such a baby."


I didn't know that expressing yourself as being a baby. I'll jsut shut up then and sit in a corner and never say anything.

Anything to do with religion:

"God never gives you more than you can handle."

My friend said that a lady said this to her the other day, and she said to the lady, "God must think I'm one tough broad!" LOL. That's my exact take on it, too.

"Bless your heart."

"Anything is possible with prayer."

And my all time favorite:

After visiting church for a couple weeks, my mother-in-law's best friend came to me and said, "Now that you've come back to God, He'll get you back on track, and soon enough, you won't have to take that nasty medication anymore!"

This was said 2 weeks after I got home from a 2 week trip to the psych ward. I told her that I'll stop taking my mood stabilizer when she stops taking her insulin.

"Take your meds and it will all go away."

"Just like this fan in my room will?"

"you take things WAY to serious!"

"don't freak out!"

"maybe you're just not trying!"

Another thing not to say to me isn't an exact sentence,
but is a group of sentences...anyone that blames my getting mad at them on something else when its OBVIOUS that its them.

like an old friend the picked apart my artwork and blamed it on his teachers in uni.