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miserylovescompany
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26 Mar 2008, 7:08 pm

I've tried everything....she still comes back in my dreams, it's so bad now that I put off sleeping till I am litteraly passing out.



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27 Mar 2008, 10:45 am

Miserylovescompany, do future victims a favor and get legal aid and sue the living s**t out of the b***h! :)



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27 Mar 2008, 12:32 pm

We tried all that, there is nothing we can do. The "care" company denied everything and said there was no proof that any of this had happened and threatened to take me to court!. I was never told why, this woman never explained why, so all I'm doing now is running from her in my head with drugs and constant depression, pretending I am fine, falling apart when I'm on my own etc etc. It's a horrible vicous circle.



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27 Mar 2008, 12:33 pm

krex wrote:
I know I had a lot of problems sleeping my whole life...even as a little kid I used to wait until my parents fell asleep and get up to read or watch the late,late movies.The lack of sleep does make everything else worse(I would like to see the average NT function with a few hours of sleep).I think that some of this is just natural to people with AS(sleeping problems)I tend to go over and over things that have happened in my life or just that day.It's soooo anoying.

I know that my "natural" wake sleep cycle appears to be go to sleep arounf 4am and wake around 12pm of later...then another several hours to "feel awake" enough to deal with the world(on the days that I can).You can imagine how difficult it is to apply for jobs and stuff when you begin your day when most people are ending theirs.The solution for me(not a perfect one by far)was to take afternoon and night classes in college and I have been working nothing but over nights for the past 15 years.

I would recommend a few things for this....
(again)anti-depressants help me sleep
5 mg of Melatonin
physical exercise(even if it is nothing more then laying still and tensing all your muscles while laying in bed)
Yoga or general stretching routine several times a day(we hold the pain in our muscles...it's true!release it.)
write in a journal all the crap your feeling
keep a journal by the bed so you can write down your thoughts/plans when they are bothering you
Are their sensory issues causing you problems sleeping...ie...room to hot/cold,noises,light(I live in a darken caved like room and run a fan and a sound machine all the time...I'm like Pavloves dogs,training myself to sleep on cue..sort of works)
I also like to read before bed but nothing to negative/dark/intersting...a good book can make insomnia much worse for us


I really hope you can get help. I really think most humans are a waste of space but they also have a chance to be less so with a lot of work,you have more challenges to over come but perhaps more to offer as an end result?After all,who do we want running this world..the bullies who are appear to be in charge now or people who have been hurting and have some compassion for others who hurt?If we give up,they win.Fight back.


It's not that I can't sleep, I choose not to these days because I am sick of seeing her in nightmares.



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27 Mar 2008, 3:00 pm

I see,thanks for clarifying..that makes total sense.I am afraid of driving and socializing so I avoid them as much as I can...sleep you can't avoid...that is a bummer but I dont know how to avoid nightmares other then the lucid dreaming thing which is pretty unpredictable.


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27 Mar 2008, 7:02 pm

I once slipped into lucid dreaming quite by accident, and had a very satisfactory ending to an ongoing nightmare, which had been haunting me for ten years. The dream never returned. I hope that happens for you!


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27 Mar 2008, 7:10 pm

Just by the way, you don't need 5 mg of Melatonin, 3 mg is just fine for a lot of people.

I don't know what I would do if I were in your position. I wish you all the best.



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29 Mar 2008, 9:27 pm

You definitely are suffering from Post Traumatic Stress. Unless you see a counselor, and work through this, it will prolly keep happening.
You could try acting this episode out by yourself. Like a counselor would have you do. Imagine her, and talk back to her. Even use a big cushion pillow and kick her to make her shut up.

Your brain is 'stuck' right now, it wants to resolve this, but only gets halfway to the solution.


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30 Mar 2008, 10:26 pm

How about scripting a few pleasant dreams, that you'd like to have. I've started doing that, last night. I write down specific details that I would like to have happen, in order. I'm going to play my two page sequence, in my mind, as I drift off to sleep, tonight.


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