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ebec11
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04 Apr 2008, 8:29 pm

Bluesummers wrote:

ebec11 wrote:

You're not a failure! If both my parents died (if you count my stepfather, as my father deserves to die for all the horrible things he's done to me and my siblings), I would be a miserable wreck for YEARS. I wouldn't be talking to people, I would be by myself and shut down.

Thank you for the kind words, but that does nothing more than to reassure my failure. It shouldn't matter what cross I bear, I have people to look out for, and I'm failing them at every turn.

I need to be stronger, yet I'm dying more and more every day. I may find an excuse for others to dwell upon, but I see the truth...I'm not who I need to be. I don't even know who that is.

Suffering builds character. I don't like the character I've become.

You might do some good from some therapy. It might help you remember your parents without feeling pain.
Don't think you're failing, everybody exeriences grief in different ways.
A book that might help (I've been reading it, although my father abandoned me, he didn't die) is 'How to Survive the Loss of a Love' by Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., Melba Colgrove, Ph.D, and Peter McWilliams.

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04 Apr 2008, 8:30 pm

I'm afraid you'll have to let her sort her own problems out, hard as it is for you to watch. You can lead your horse to great-tasting water but you can't make it drink.

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04 Apr 2008, 8:31 pm

jason_b1980 wrote:

I recently met someone that worked with me a short time like this. We share a lot of the same problems, and have both gone through a lot in our lives, yet she is unwilling to let me, (or anyone else for that matter) help her with things.

I would really like to help her, but it seems like I was always walking on eggshells around her. I would really like it if we could help each other out, and be there for each other, but it doesn't seem to be happening that way.

That's how I feel. I get it logically, but it still hurts my feelings.

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04 Apr 2008, 11:19 pm

your just a impatient brat
give her some time...
sound like sucha ret*d
whineing aboutt your friends nastyness when i dont even have a f*****g friend!

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