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Magliabechi
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13 Dec 2008, 7:22 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
In my country , any baby born "illegitimately" is formally nameless (has no ID) and so can't even be adopted. They grow as persons called "Laqites" who have no civil right: they can't get married , they can't work , they can't vote ...nothing.

Those are people which their names were taken away for a "sin" done by their parents.


That's barbaric and terrible.

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13 Dec 2008, 8:40 pm

Magliabechi wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
In my country , any baby born "illegitimately" is formally nameless (has no ID) and so can't even be adopted. They grow as persons called "Laqites" who have no civil right: they can't get married , they can't work , they can't vote ...nothing.

Those are people which their names were taken away for a "sin" done by their parents.


That's barbaric and terrible.

Magliabechi.


I had a child out of wedlock in the Midwest in America in the 1960's. The child was removed from the mother and the mother cast out from her family and society. The father was smacked on the wrist and told to be more careful next time.

barbary and terror is everywhere.

Merle


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14 Dec 2008, 1:27 pm

sinsboldly wrote:
I had a child out of wedlock in the Midwest in America in the 1960's. The child was removed from the mother and the mother cast out from her family and society. The father was smacked on the wrist and told to be more careful next time.

barbary and terror is everywhere.

Merle


That's a great pity and it's very sad- no one should be treated like that.

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17 Dec 2008, 10:34 am

I am sorry everyone for leaving you without telling you my situation. On another tread on the main forum, I posted my situation. And soeone said to just go kill myself. So, i became fustrated and felt bad. So, I deleted everything. I felt people were nice but that comment really hurt me.

I would like to describe to you what bothers me. But the story is very long and I doubt anyone would be interested. In short, people in my town see me as very strange. someone got the idea I was a pervert and acused me of such. Then they even took me to court because they claimed I was takking pictures of their daughter. In reality, I was taking picutres of my daughter because I wented them for my daughter to have long after I will be gone. I also enjoy looking at my daughter's pictures a lot. Now the entire town thinks I am a pervert. And I never leave my house. It has been a year and a half. I hate everyone now. And I just feel like giving up. I sit mostly in my room now. I don't have a lot to do anymore. I could explain more. But I know that no matter how well I explain, people always think.. hmmm. Maybe there is something to this? I even went to ministers. and after they said they understood, they had people follow me to the bath room when I needed to go. I hate God.

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17 Dec 2008, 6:07 pm

There is a lot of understanding on these forums but also a lot of unassuaged feelings and tension. I don't know which idiot suggested you should kill yourself but it sounds like you have unfinished business in this world and changes to the situation (no matter how dire) can always be put in motion. I know you mention having a daughter so it may not be practical, but is there even the slightest possibility that you could up sticks and move away from this town of hysterical fools you describe? My folks moved numerous times whilst I was growing up and I turned out OK.

Where I come from evidence is required before assumptions are made about anyone, however when vilification and mass hysteria are involved it can be difficult to make yourself heard, especially in tight knit, god fearing communities. Nobody should be a prisoner in their own home. Don't give up, for the sake of your daughter at least. I know how hard it can be to pull oneself out of a hole without inspiration from outside.