I'm such a fraud. cant take it anymore.

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you are all acting like babies arguing over who is right.

Yes all advice on depression can be summed up with the words "get over it". Just like all math can be summed up with the words "pattern, relationship, and problems" but exactly how helpful is that for a student studying math?

diddly squat.

When people are in trouble and need help, they need something more detailed that "get over it"

my post essentially said "get over it" but I realize that she needed more than just those words because where she is right now they are not as helpful. When she gets out of it, she will look back and say "yeah, get over it" but now? she needs a little more guidance and hope.

So stop bickering and either contribute, learn or leave.

Yes I think this is part of the problem. I grew up in a home where i was beaten for crying. So now as an adult its hard for me to cry and let it out without worrying about somthing bad happening.

I have worry when I cry someone may become mad or upset. The people I live with now understand my AS and my other problems and I can even talk to them when I'm sad.

The problem is I'm scared to to that because of what happend in my past .

I'm always telling my self to "get over it" , " stop complaining" and telling my self that "I'm being a drama queen" . This is not true . I know that , and yet I still tell myself these things because I have heard them for years from my father.

I am currantly working on positive self talk and learning how to recognise when I'm being negeitive about my feelings. Also realising its OK to be sad sometimes. fixing this will help me be able to be sad without feeling guilty about it. Then I am more likely to be able to release my problems and move foward.

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Thankyou for being so understanding Shiggily.
And by the way that is very true. ^

One thing I'm so sad about is my mother is diying.

I will miss her so much. She has 5 years at most.

She has copd from smoking. If she stoped smoking she would live alot longer.

I think the thing you all can do that would help me most is pray for her.

I do not know what your religions are if any
but I believe anything is possible. I know if enough people pray she will stop smoking and I will have a few more years with my mother.

If you can do this I would be so gratefull so very greatull. more then then you coulde ever know.

Thank you so much all of you! and bless you all.

I talked to my mother about my worries and it semed to help. I have noticed she is smokign less as well so thankyou to everyone who has been praying for her. keep it up cause its working!


I have been feeling better today, I dont really know why. I think my outlook on things has changed so hopefully my sprits stay high.

Also i got a full night's sleep last night so thats very good too . (because ive only been sleeping an hour or two a night)

Wish me luck!
J

this might sound weird... but try taking a prenatal vitamin. The psychiatrists that are evaluating me put me on it because it has huge amounts of Vitamin B and they said a Vitamin B deficiency can influence your mood. I am not sure if it is because of the vitamins they have me on, but it seems to have boosted my mood a little.

Just-me, you do have friends you can cry around. You can cry around me. PM me if you want.

Hmm, what I'd suggest for you, Just-me, is to set some achievable goals for yourself. Set the kind of goals that will brighten your mood a bit once you've met them. Have you ever wanted to go out on a random, solitary picnic on a hill? Then do it. Even little things like that which don't seem so significant.
You could also add something to your daily routine that gives you temporary solace. I remember my freshman year of high school, which was near-constant mental torture. I had a free third period, so I'd go across the street to get hot chocolate. Then I'd walk back to school to the quietest hallway to drink it and read my book for class. Even though that was only for 1 hour and 20 minutes a day, it kept me from going insane.

Cyanide, I think that's excellent advice. It's what works for me.

And I know all about the sadness of having my mother very sick and she's dying of a horrible illness. You can't expect from yourself to be happy at such a time in your life, especially with all the rest that isn't going well either. I have a very sad life for the same reasons as yours, just-me, and I've decided to hell with those people who want to see a smile on my face all the time. I only smile at work, for a salary.

That was was great advice Cyanide

Ive started taking one a day multi vitamins and they have 2 typed of b vitamins. thanks for the heads up.

Now i just have to remember to take them every day.

I think that is a good idea. I may not be able to get my goals done evryday, but I have been trying.

Yesterday I set a goals to get through to the food stamp office, call my mother, and cancel my appontment cause i couldent get a ride there.

I got it all done , it took all day but i did it.

These things make me feel like I am able to do things and I feel usefull.

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