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12 Mar 2009, 12:52 pm

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I know I'm probably over-reacting, but this is the very first time in two years that my boyfriend has not made up after arguing with me. We made a goal to always leave on a good note with each other every night, and we had until tonight. I don't even understand. Our arguement tonight was over nothing. He couldn't even remember how it even started. He's just in a really bad mood. We spent eight minutes on the phone totally silent (with the exception of his annoyed breathing). I eventually hung up and called him back an hour later. He got mad at me and hung up on me. That was over two hours ago and it's now 11:20 PM. He hasn't PM'd be on YouTube like he usually does and I know he's still awake and he's not busy as he doesn't have school or anything tomorrow...

Like I said, this is the very first time we've ever left off on a bad note in two years. Our relationship is extremely important to the both of us and we've planned every little detail out about our futures.

Seriously, I'm silently crying right now. I still can't believe this even happened over nothing. We've gotten in absolutely horrid arguements before and we've always made up and acted like nothing's happened. I have no idea what went wrong tonight. He doesn't know either, so I have no idea. :cry: :cry: :cry:


couples fight all the time-sometimes they stay mad longer-people can't plan out emotions



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12 Mar 2009, 1:02 pm

couples are supposed break up eventually - sorry - the statistics are like 90% of all relationships break up.



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12 Mar 2009, 2:58 pm

AAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!! !! !! Now we're mad at each other again!! !! !! !! ! We promised each other we would not get in a fight today, and guess what happened? We got in a fight! The basics of it is that I always have to cooperate with him but whenever I want to something, he often goes against me and he says it's the opposite!! !! ! And because I was so mad at him, I slammed the phone down on my finger, breaking the nail and making it bleed from the nail piercing it! I hate him! And now I know he's definitely not going to call me back anytime soon because he's got to go to work at 4:30. And I'm so sick of always having to take the first step forward whenever something like this happens. IT'S HIS TURN FOR ONCE!! !! !! !! !!



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12 Mar 2009, 3:41 pm

Lightning88 wrote:
AAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!! !! !! Now we're mad at each other again!! !! !! !! ! We promised each other we would not get in a fight today, and guess what happened? We got in a fight! The basics of it is that I always have to cooperate with him but whenever I want to something, he often goes against me and he says it's the opposite!! !! ! And because I was so mad at him, I slammed the phone down on my finger, breaking the nail and making it bleed from the nail piercing it! I hate him! And now I know he's definitely not going to call me back anytime soon because he's got to go to work at 4:30. And I'm so sick of always having to take the first step forward whenever something like this happens. IT'S HIS TURN FOR ONCE!! !! !! !! !!


both of you need:

anger management
conflict resolution skills
negotiating a compromise type of skills



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12 Mar 2009, 3:59 pm

We're fine again now, but who knows what's going to happen tonight. At this point, anything goes. However, the last thing either one of us wants to do is break up with each other. We've planned out a really exciting future for ourselves and I cannot wait for it to all come true.

However, in the meantime, I think I may be becoming depressed. I do love my life and I wouldn't want to be anyone else. I love what I have. However, I'm extremely lonely, no one in rl is ever really there for me, my family and I don't have a great relationship, I have absolutely nothing to do, no one to talk to most of the time, or anything. Last time I had a really good day was Saturday when I went to the zoo. But after that, everything just kind of went downhill again. I haven't even taken a shower since Sunday and I don't even have any will to go anywhere right now. *sigh*



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12 Mar 2009, 4:43 pm

Lightning88 wrote:
We're fine again now, but who knows what's going to happen tonight. At this point, anything goes. However, the last thing either one of us wants to do is break up with each other. We've planned out a really exciting future for ourselves and I cannot wait for it to all come true.

However, in the meantime, I think I may be becoming depressed. I do love my life and I wouldn't want to be anyone else. I love what I have. However, I'm extremely lonely, no one in rl is ever really there for me, my family and I don't have a great relationship, I have absolutely nothing to do, no one to talk to most of the time, or anything. Last time I had a really good day was Saturday when I went to the zoo. But after that, everything just kind of went downhill again. I haven't even taken a shower since Sunday and I don't even have any will to go anywhere right now. *sigh*


wow that sucks. do you think you might be irritable? i am sometimes, especially when i'm lonely and depressed.



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12 Mar 2009, 5:59 pm

Oh, I already know I am. That's how I am normally. If anyone messes with me, bad things happen to them. That's just the way I am. Having grown up in a rough school distrct, I can surprisingly hold my own. But if there's something that makes me mad, I cannot just instantly get over it.