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GriffinGuitar12
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05 Sep 2009, 10:02 pm

CleverKitten wrote:
GriffinGuitar12 wrote:

What in the?!? You misinterpreted my message, aaaarrrrgghhhhh!! !! :x I was trying to imply that OTHER people on here might think such people are bad, not that *I* do!! Please try to read my message more carefully next time (either that or I'll just reword it so you can understand it better...)



What in the?!? You misinterpreted this whole topic, aaaarrrrgghhhhh!! !! :x
The majority of people on here don't think that NTs are bad, either. In this particular topic, we are merely pointing out some qualities that annoy us, qualities that are present in what seems like the vast majority of NTs.

Please try to read this entire topic more carefully next time (Either that, or just join in the fun! There has to be something about some NTs that you find even slightly annoying!) :lol:


D'oh! :oops: Well then, make that rule # 77 (or whatever number we're on, idk...) Don't misinterpret what someone is saying - this applies to both NT's AND Aspies! :lol:



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06 Sep 2009, 1:48 am

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Don't growl in frustration (this can be hard or impossible not to do). NT's will often say things like "Arg!" if they're really frustrated, whereas many aspies will growl like an animal instead.

Don't make animal noises. I don't care how good your wolf howl / hawk screech / meow is. Unless you're deliberately trying to weird someone out, don't do this, even though the results can be humorous. :) And yes, I have still done this on rare occasion, knowing full well it would be regarded as weird.

You might want to consider not walking with your hands behind your back. I know some aspies, myself included, do this, but it really draws attention. It doesn't get any real reactions, it just looks a little odd.


I can say that the animal thing is true. My aspie friends might not mind so much, but NT's really can get weirded out. My boyfriend Makes Lovely growls. I enjoy the sound. Like animals they all mean something different. But NT's don't understand.

Some of these are really good tips.

Don't over complement them. One complement works to start a friendship (has worked several times with me, but beware some of the ones who accept complements are more liely to be "fake" friends) But many works to scare them off.


If you do the animal growl they won't think you're aspie. THey'll think you're furry.
*ducks*



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06 Sep 2009, 3:10 am

-Do not think that you are that special to them when they hug you or lean on your shoulder or say "I love you!" (in a friendly way). It only means that they like you but stuff like that is completely normal to them

-When they do something that you don't get, you might as well just ask. It will irritate them to have to repeat the gesture or sentence because they just think that you didn't see or hear it

-When in a place where you can't talk, look down and avoid looking at your friends because they might mouth things to you or make signs that you don't understand and you can only stare back at them.

-When the teacher tells us to choose our own group and you don't have any friends and are to shy to ask a group to let you join, put your arms on your desk and bury yourself in your arms and chances are the teacher will put you in the group with the fewest members when everything's settle down. Try not to look at the faces of your unwilling groupmates cos they hurt. If the teacher ignores you, just forget about the group activity and if they ask why you didn't participate you say you couldn't.

-When you make a joke and everyone laughs, try not to get so carried away because when you get excited and make more jokes, they might be too much or not funny anymore

-When walking, don't forget peripheral vision (I have like, none because I forget to look)



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06 Sep 2009, 3:26 am

Nightrain wrote:
oh.....snap. :( I've probably done eighty percent of these things mentioned. Especially the book thing. Is it really considered rude to read a book around someone or not participate when someone has guests over. (even though you don't want to talk?) There were a lot of people that came over to my graduation and I wasn't interested in them and some of them I didn't know really well. My mom always nags me to come join them and talk (with any guests that we have). I never understood why, all I can ever do is sit there not knowing what to do, so why don't I just do something productive instead? :roll:


Amen.