04 Dec 2020, 3:23 pm
04 Dec 2020, 4:25 pm
HighVamp913 wrote:
magz wrote:
HighVamp913 wrote:
I just got dumped by my girlfriend's (now ex's) parents. We aren't allowed to see each other. That usually doesn't stop me from seeing her, but they told my parents that I'm not allowed to see their daughter. ( My parents are homophobic so I can't really do nothing now.) they been knew I was lez. They just didn't know I had a girlfriend. I'm pissed. My parents literally yelled at me for an hour after that. Yelling bible verses and Adam & Eve. What am I supposed to do now?
Darn.Moving out as soon as possible seems a good idea but until then - do you have friends or other allies you really trust? Just to keep your sanity above the surface.
Yea a few but they aren't always available.
Stop! You have to ensure an income before moving out. Even if your parents dislike your sexuality. Your parents are most likely afraid of not ever having grandchildren. I guess it's already less a problem to them once they are thinking that you are bi even if you aren't. Your body is yours only despite what they believe. But it's wrong to break with your parents before you have a profession as well as a income. You can't rely on friends for this!! !
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Life has to be an adventure!Last edited by quite an extreme on 04 Dec 2020, 8:19 pm, edited 1 time in total.
04 Dec 2020, 7:07 pm
HighVamp913 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
HighVamp913 wrote:
( My parents are homophobic so I can't really do nothing now.) they been knew I was lez. They just didn't know I had a girlfriend. I'm pissed. My parents literally yelled at me for an hour after that. Yelling bible verses and Adam & Eve. What am I supposed to do now?
I think that, for your sanity, you are going to have to find a job and move out, when you turn 18.
Getting into a shared accommodation situation, would be financially sensible.
Or are you interested in tertiary study?
It is ludicrous for you to have to live the way other people want you to live.
I'm sure your parents luv you, but they have no idea how damaging it is for someone to live to other people's misguided standards.
I am staggered.
I was a committed christian, when I was young.
I should have simply been committed.
i gotta graduate firstYep. Don't do anything rash.
Just mentally prepare.
Finding another girlfriend with parents who are more broadminded, might be the way to go?
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04 Dec 2020, 9:33 pm
04 Dec 2020, 9:44 pm
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04 Dec 2020, 10:11 pm
Most definitely will now 
05 Dec 2020, 5:29 am
05 Dec 2020, 6:27 am
magz wrote:
I absolutely didn't mean it that way - I meant friends as means for maintaining sanity, not to speed up moving out.
That's OK. Be aware that she is just 17 and still depending on her parents. But she may be desperated right now and may get such suggestions like 'moving out' wrong. I don't want her homeless and without future. Even a total break with her parents would be sh*t.
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05 Dec 2020, 9:34 am
05 Dec 2020, 10:22 am
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I think I am going to end it with her. She has enough things to deal with in her life without me in it. No looking forward to it.
Hope it doesn't drives you depressive and you start to disassembe yourself again.
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05 Dec 2020, 10:43 am
05 Dec 2020, 12:52 pm
Do you like rock music? I began to like it once I was really down and felt bad long long ago and didn't see a future. I heard ACDC "Highway to hell" then. It matched my feelings. I heard it countless times afterwards.
What's life without your wild side? If it comes to me then I don't ever want that. It's not me. You need to keep your fun and your power whatever comes.
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Life has to be an adventure!05 Dec 2020, 5:33 pm
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Not gonna do anything rash. I just do not know how to tell my parents "I respect them but I love who I love". I definitely do not want to be kicked out.
Pepe, permission to fall off the wagon for 48 hours?
Pepe, permission to fall off the wagon for 48 hours?
You already have one up your sleeve.
05 Dec 2020, 5:37 pm
magz wrote:
I absolutely didn't mean it that way - I meant friends as means for maintaining sanity, not to speed up moving out.
I was psychologically estranged by my parents when I was 17. While I was prudent enough not to run away from home - and I definitely recommend the same prudency to OP - I really needed places and people where I could go and be accepted the way I was, without hiding, masking and avoiding some topics.
I was psychologically estranged by my parents when I was 17. While I was prudent enough not to run away from home - and I definitely recommend the same prudency to OP - I really needed places and people where I could go and be accepted the way I was, without hiding, masking and avoiding some topics.
Well, Tay gets unlimited support, here online.
That is not as good as in RL, but it is a good base.
05 Dec 2020, 5:40 pm
quite an extreme wrote:
magz wrote:
I absolutely didn't mean it that way - I meant friends as means for maintaining sanity, not to speed up moving out.
That's OK. Be aware that she is just 17 and still depending on her parents. But she may be desperated right now and may get such suggestions like 'moving out' wrong. I don't want her homeless and without future. Even a total break with her parents would be sh*t.
I didn't see anyone suggest she reacts without thinking.
05 Dec 2020, 5:48 pm
HighVamp913 wrote:
I think I am going to end it with her. She has enough things to deal with in her life without me in it. No looking forward to it. Pepe, permission to fall off the wagon for 2 days.
Permission granted.
But: "Be kind to yourself."
Having a couple of lazy/sleepy days might help.
I am a big fan of R.E.M. sleep to clean out the emotional anxiety.
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