I am considering permanently leaving WP

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There was another girl who had all the qualities I was looking for, except she was an atheist.

There are no other female Aspies who are Christians, have the same interests, and have graduate degrees.

Not in Wichita Falls, not in San Marcos, not in Seattle, not ANYWHERE!

I feel cheated, because she didn't even mention the personality issue until a few weeks ago. I didn't even give it a second thought, because I had never even heard of that concept until she mentioned it.

As for distance, it would have only been long-distance for maybe a year.

Tim,

I don't think the current situation has anything to do with issues you've raised recently. It's obviously wider than that - and it's been slowly worsening for a long time.

You need to get out of the situation while you can.

The atheist that you mention. Why is someone else's belief so important? Love is the same in any language right?

At least contact this other person - please?

Basically, it would have only worked out if I had gone to the same school as her, graduated at the same time, and found a job in the same town as her at the exact same time she did.

I feel that I had been jerked around.

When I try to tell her that her way of thinking is wrong, and that she needs to see people for their good qualities, rather than turn them down because they might cause inconvenience for her, she gets defensive, rather than admits that she's wrong.

The whole reason I limited myself to other Aspies when it comes to dating is because I felt that they would automatically see people for their good qualities first and foremost, and that they were morally superior to NTs.

I wanted her to see what a wonderful person I am, but my personality isn't good enough. Personality is all that matters to her. She said that if there is nobody in existence who has the perfect personality, she would stay single, and would never budge on it.


I feel more depressed that I have ever been in my life, and I want to hurt myself somehow.

If you're thinking of hurting yourself, staying on here and talking about it isn't going to make things any better. You seem more upset by each response. Do you have a counselor you can talk to? Is there SOMEONE you can confide in? Because when I've reached that point, I'm not usually talking about it online anymore. Do you get what I mean. Self-mutilation/suicide attempts-been there and done that. You need someone to help you step outside of the pain that's engulfing you, that's become a cancerous obsession. You seem like a kind person. You look like my cousin. You remind me of him also. He has ADHD. He has a VERY hard time with female relationships. Fortunately, he has people he can talk to or he might not be around. I hope some of this gets through. Only you can take the next step.

Hey, leaving is your choice. Just do it without beating yourself up, because some of that isn't true.

No matter what answer anyone gives you, you aren't going to be happy, so I don't see why you continue to post. As the saying goes, "either poop or get off the pot". I'm not trying to be mean to you, BUT YOU DON'T SEEM TO BE GETTING THE MESSAGE! So there it is. Good luck and God bless.