EnmaLionheart wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
EnmaLionheart wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Whether you know it or not, I would say it's likely that you are better than you think you are.
Simple as that. But if I say anything like that to sly. I'd have his white knights jumping me for it telling my I'm a as*hole or emotionless for saying or thinking it. I'm not going to say how I truly feel about this cause if I do I'd be permanently banned for the heartless part with zero regards. Sometimes I think actual NT females need to tell sly how he comes off as.
Oh wow, I hope I don't come off that way as well. I spend time talking about how miserable I am due to my imperfections. I hope people don't see me that way. It must be really boring for people listening to me. I must learn to just think that negative self-loathing stuff and not say it. Maybe one day I can learn to not even think it.
I don't think you do from what I've seen. Like personally sly needs to work on himself if anything. I seriously think if he worked on himself and stop the extreme negativity and excuses he gives here when people give him advice PLUS wanting a relationships that he's not ready with how he posts here and acts. He might be able to get a better reception out of women in real life.
With the way he is now, I personally think a romantic relationship would devastate him more with how he acts on here. Cause right now if he were to be on another board. He would be deemed a "lol cow" for how he acts and a site like Kiwi farms could pick up quickly on that or any site. I'm not saying it's boring for people to listen to anyone unless you can sense it I mean don't be obsessive about yourself and try to interact or try to relate in some way and be more considerate. Asperger's is a mild form of autism so things can be learned. Like yes, I have issues and troubles I want to move forward on. I think with Asperger's or Autism we'll always need help like everyone else. Just we have to work on communicating for it and sometimes doing it ourselves if no one else wants to.
I don't condone thinking negative self-thinking and saying it. I struggle with it, but I know I am getting steps to help and learn to forgive myself and move forward as well as not think it all the time, I believe anyone autistic, Asperger's or not think negative at times and have troubles. Just with Autism and Asperger's it's going to take a bit more for us to work on not being so negative and somethings, though with Autism it depends on the severity of it.
But with sly, I think he has probably stressed people on here out and possibly real life. I just think no one is really willing to tell him on here about it without him throwing excuses or saying something that can come off as rude as hell to others here or anywhere else including real life. I believe he wants me banned for some reason. I'm not sure, who knows? I'm not angry with him, it's just he's very depressing for the short time I've been here. I don't post much because I know I might snap on someone and half-mean it. I apologize if I sound like I hate him. I don't, he left me the worst impression of how he might be. I just believe he needs honesty in his life, not babying.
Wanting a relationship? That's the last thing he needs. If he feels stressed now why would he want an additional stressor in his life? Relationships can make your life a lot more complicated.
I can be negative too but whether or not I get into a relationship is not what worries me. Not that I don't try. I've been dating most weekends but I'm more concerned about improving my memory and concentration so I can keep my job and improving my time management so I can use it more efficiently.
Better time management would not only improve my non-work projects but also improve my recreation (allow me to set aside time for specific forms of recreation instead of just surfing the web).
I engage in far more negative self thinking than I would like too. You're right that it's harmful and you're right it's very difficult to stop. The flip side is that it also motivates me. When I was younger and had a positive self-image, I didn't put much effort into self-improvement. I was overweight and unemployed.
A little self-criticism can lead to self-improvement but a lot of self-criticism can distract you from getting anything done.
He wants you banned? That's strange. I don't think I've heard you say a disparaging word.
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