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25 Aug 2018, 2:31 pm

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Invite your mother to a group therapy session with yourself and your sister. Say that it is "family counselling". The therapist can point out her idiosyncratic behaviour, and then perhaps she will continue on her own.


My sister and I do not attend group therapy sessions. In fact, my sister sees a therapist through our city's public health system and I have been seeing my therapist through VR services provided through the State Of Oregon.

However, if my sister or I try to talk to our mom about this, she may say something like:

"Oh...there's nothing wrong with me."

"It's just going to be a waste of time."

"You're both overreacting."

"Making me see a therapist is a just a way of making yourselves feel good."

My sister and I are just concerned about our mother's behavior.


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25 Aug 2018, 2:44 pm

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My mom has been giving me and my sister a hard time. She has gotten rough, rude, extremely judgmental, and very sarcastic. My sister and I don't know what to do and whenever our mom makes a mistake, she blames us for it.

My sister and I have been seeing therapists since last summer and we have been thinking of ways to convince our mother to see a therapist herself, so any advice that my sister and I can use would be much appreciated.


Maybe, your therapist could invite her to share her "objective observations" of your behavior. That way, she might not be defensive or feel threatened.


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25 Aug 2018, 3:44 pm

I survived (relatively?) a toxic mother myself. It isn't easy. Is there a way that you and your sister can live together and move away independently?


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25 Aug 2018, 3:46 pm

I feel -5

I can't stay above water for more than one or two days before something guts me.


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25 Aug 2018, 7:56 pm

-4 cause I gave into a bad habit I thought I had broke


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25 Aug 2018, 7:59 pm

^^Self-harm? :(


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25 Aug 2018, 8:07 pm

-3. i'm not exactly sad but i have a task to do and i don't want/can't do it. i feel useless this way.



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25 Aug 2018, 8:32 pm

Can it really be called self harm if it’s not really harmful? More like self inflicted pain....


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25 Aug 2018, 8:39 pm

^^You inflict pain on yourself; harming yourself. My ex was a rape victim and also did it a lot. She hit herself on the head, her head against the wall, would hit herself with spoons and forks on her hands and so on. It's an addiction, often caused by self-hatred, not knowing where to vent certain negative emotions. It relieves emotional suffering a bit.

Am terribly sorry you are dealing with this, but I respect it and understand you suffer.


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25 Aug 2018, 8:44 pm

Banging your head against the wall counts as self harm?! ! Oh god than I never kept to my promise....


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25 Aug 2018, 9:17 pm

justkillingtime wrote:
AnonymousAnonymous wrote:
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My mom has been giving me and my sister a hard time. She has gotten rough, rude, extremely judgmental, and very sarcastic. My sister and I don't know what to do and whenever our mom makes a mistake, she blames us for it.

My sister and I have been seeing therapists since last summer and we have been thinking of ways to convince our mother to see a therapist herself, so any advice that my sister and I can use would be much appreciated.


Maybe, your therapist could invite her to share her "objective observations" of your behavior. That way, she might not be defensive or feel threatened.


That is out of the question because my therapist specializes with clients who are on the spectrum.


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25 Aug 2018, 9:18 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Is there a way that you and your sister can live together and move away independently?


Until my sister and I find ourselves suitable employment, then we are stuck with our mother.


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25 Aug 2018, 9:50 pm

-6 cause my roommate keeps giving me beer and I don’t think I’m a fan...


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25 Aug 2018, 11:28 pm

-20 still



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26 Aug 2018, 12:43 pm

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-6 cause my roommate keeps giving me beer and I don’t think I’m a fan...


Have you ever told your roommate you don't drink beer?


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26 Aug 2018, 12:47 pm

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-20 still


We're always here for you whenever you need support.


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